Being honest...

Jun 23, 2013

Diamond P.

I see a lot of posts with girls who look awful with their makeup and/or hair, and people tell them that they look great when they clearly do not. Is it wrong to be honest if you do it respectfully? I know I would want everyone to be honest with me.

Jun 23, 2013

Morgan S.

I think it comes down to how brutally honest or hurtful your wording it could be. I feel as if you word it correctly and curb your opinions to where you don't hurt them but still make your point across its fine. But being flat out horrible and saying ew your fat or ew your ugly is taking it way to far. But I see nothing wrong with honest.

Jun 23, 2013

Jalin G.

I agree I think its how you word it. like if someone asks if they look okay, you could suggest they do something different instead of flat out saying no you look like a clown.

Jun 23, 2013

Paige L.

I always try to be honest in a nice way.

Jun 23, 2013

Ivonne B.

I am very honest! Different ppl have different taste! Everybody's has their own unique beauty!!

Jun 23, 2013

Hillary T.

I also think that sometimes if its not horrible then maybe nothing needs to be said. You always run the risk of hurting someone so just pick your battles wisely.

Jun 23, 2013

Etienne S.

Yeah you girls are all right.. Be honest in a good way.. Or if I don't really like it, I would just shut up and not say anything at all..

Jun 23, 2013

Roz X.

Agree, Diamond. Sometimes I feel as I'm in the minority with what I find interesting or fabulous. If they ask my opinion, I'm going to be completely honest. Sometimes, I just say nothing..period. Perhaps it's just my personal taste and people truly ARE being honest because they really like something; I'm never certain.
On a semi-related note, I've seen blanket statements about fashion that made me laugh aloud or cringe..lol I also feel some peeps put WAY too much value on the opinion of others when they should be wearing what makes then feel good! Although I truly enjoy seeing looks and giving feedback, certain posters can't seem to make even the simple decisions alone; I tend to just gloss over those sort of threads. Still, I do enjoy the forum and so if an opinion is asked and the topic is of interest to me, I will respond accordingly.

Jun 23, 2013

Nina F.

If you word it correctly it won't come across as being rude. but I do agree its worse to lie and tell someone that they look good when they honestly don't.

Jun 23, 2013

Ashley D.

I try to be nice but honest. And sometimes I just ignore the pic if I have nothing nice to say. (like when people show pics of their makeup and it looks awful)

Jun 23, 2013

Olivia N.

It is hard to tell someone that. But of you only want the best hint to them. The best we can do is guide or stand by.

Jun 23, 2013

Roz X.

Ashley, I do the same. Sometimes silence sends a stronger message without hurting someone's feelings. I would never want people to lie to me about a look I was seeking help with or feedback on. I've seen some fantastic feedback with tips and tricks and the member who created the topic be very receptive to learning more. That's always nice. :)

Jun 23, 2013

Stephanie M.

I went to an art school, so I've literally been taught to critique properly. You can dislike a look, but you need to be very specific on what you don't like without being insulting and constrictive. Some people think everything is rude though, and that's usually because this is the internet and emotions aren't as easily expressed as they would be face to face.

Jun 23, 2013

Stephanie M.

And you should be constructive* err..sorry.

Jun 23, 2013

Sarah J.

Opinions vary. just because you think someone looks awful doesn't mean the compliment giver does. I think honesty is good thoufg.

Jun 23, 2013

Lauren M.

I think there's a way to state your opinion without being a complete jerk. For example, saying something along the lines of "Ew you look awful" would be hurtful, rude, and totally inappropriate, whereas stating "I would just blend some more and make the liner a little bit thicker" would be helpful and honest without tearing that person down. That, or if you could simply ignore the post. As Rozberry said, "Sometimes silence sends a stronger message without hurting someone's feelings."
"If you ain't got nothing nice to say don't say nothing at all!" :)

Jun 23, 2013

Lauren M.

And the people that say they love the look- maybe they honestly do like how it looks. Makeup is all about personal preference. One person's ideal look may not be another's. :)

Jun 23, 2013

Roz X.

Lauren, I break my own rule sometimes when I find something so cray that I have to pipe up. ;p

Jun 23, 2013

Vanessa W.

Be honest but not hateful or nasty. It's one thing to disagree with an opinion and another thing to just be plain rude! Imo. :)

Jun 23, 2013

Tiffany D.

When I ask a question like that I'm asking because I want honesty, if there's something I can improve on I would like for someone to tell me but its all about how you say it being honest doesn't give anyone the right to start being downright rude or start throwing out insults.

Jun 23, 2013

Jes T.

It really depends on the situation. with those "Am I pretty" topics, its rude to tell somebody that they are ugly. That's actually bullying. I saw a topic a while back and one girl asked if she looked fat and I counted 4 girls say yes. it was terrible. Never ever call a girl fat. But with opinions on hair or makeup or clothing, if it does indeed look terrible, rather then telling them, I make a suggestion "EX: You're so pretty! But maybe less eyeliner?"
girls post wanting honest opinions, its only fair to give it to them, but there's always a kind way to do so. Always put their feelings first.

Jun 23, 2013

Lizzy W.

I think it's okay to be honest if your intentions are to help that person, not knock them down. There is a way to critique their look & be helpful without being rude or insulting. At the end of the day, you have to respect that everyone's taste & opinions differ.

Jun 23, 2013

Diamond P.

Thanks for the opinions girls :) of course I would never be rude to anyone, thats just not in my character.

Jun 23, 2013

Erin M.

I'm proud to say I'm always honest. If I don't like it I won't say I like it, I offer constructive criticism as well and ask for it on many of my looks. Saying I don't like 'x' color/jacket/whatever but try 'y' color/jacket/whatever always comes off better then I don't like it. Then there are those posts I avoid entirely when I'm in 'mood' aka, I feel like being blunt.

But at the same time, I think some of the young ladies up here can't take constructive criticism. They will either ignore it or try to justify and stick to what they did, making up excuses while praising everyone who compliments them. Seriously, if you are going to stick to your guns and not accept different views on what you've posted don't ask for opinions.

Jun 23, 2013

Kirin S.

Agree. I think that people really should be honest, but respectfully and offer suggestions.