SERIOUSLY! Enough is enough!😡

Sep 10, 2015

Lisa S.

I am so sick of this and I am sure it will get deleted! But PLEASE HAVE COURTESY! I am so sick (I know I'm not alone) of commenting on threads and NOT getting a simple thank you. What's even more irritating is when people who do respond but they thank one person and not the rest of the people who answered your question. Just because you might not have like everyones response does not mean it gives you the right to not appreciate them taking their time. I know sometimes not everyone has the time to spend all their time on a thread, but if you create one and someone answers it, you eventually need to thank them. If you are new to this app/website then read the forum rules and also learn to be considerate. I didn't just spend 30+ minutes replying to your question for no reason, so say THANKS. And some people wonder why their post don't get answered.

Another thing, STOP WITH THE SELFIES! List your freaking products! Ask for constructive criticism or talk about something other (like reviews on the products you used) than just posting a picture of you looking good!

Rant over for now. Thanks😑

Sep 10, 2015

Alyx T.

I definitely agree with you, and I know some mods have created threads on it. I believe Shelley made one all about being courteous. But unfortunately, most of the non regular people on here, don't bother to answer after they get an answer. I know personally I have spent lots of time looking for products or dupes for people, and even though it's just some simple googling or reverse image searching, it still takes time. 5 minutes is still a lot of time to spend on people who could have Googled it themselves. But it is what it is. Some people say thanks, some don't bother. Unfortunately/fortunately we can't control others.

Sep 10, 2015

Roz X.

Two reasons I sometimes step away from the forum. It can be disheartening and understandably annoying. I put a great deal of effort and sometimes research into my replies, despite I'm not known for creating my own topics. It can get discouraging. If members would stop helping those who demonstrate less than gracious forum decorum...and not engage in selfie threads, the entire forum would move in a positive direction. Indtagtam, the photo section right here at the board, twitter, tumblr and Facebook are delighted to see photos of you lookin' Hella cute and having fun, but we offer so much more here and that's what sets us apart...or it used to. Sometimes I just take a deep breath and make a mental note to not follow or participate in threads from members who aren't invested in the forum or the spirit in which it was created.

I feel ya...I truly do. Updates are one of my favorites so I love if someone comes back and says, "Hey! This worked" or "I decided to do this or wear this so let me show you", etc. I've learned so much from members who never abandon threads or were kind enough to visit my profile..even months later to share something.

Poor Sabrina always having to post the rules in threads without content. My gawd, she rocks...lol

Sep 10, 2015

Roz X.

*Instagram typosss

Sep 10, 2015

Emily B.

I know I don't always come back fast, but I come back as soon as I can because I don't have Internet at home, have two kids under three, work three jobs, and I'm a nursing student. However, I've made serious efforts to reply and say thank you as soon as I can. I do apologize if I have ever upset anyone and not said thank you, or replied in a decent time frame.
I always appreciate the effort of the wonderful ladies here. That and as simple as searching is, it's always nice to have someone else put their thoughts in on top of yours and give additional insight and advice.
So again, I apologize. And thank you to the wonderful ladies who always ALWAYS help.

Sep 10, 2015

Lisa S.

Its good to know I'm not the only one! I created a similar thread a while back or maybe I followed it, but it was well over a year ago and all those people are gone now. So many people have left Beautylish in the last few months and of course over the year because of stuff like this. Its sad to see the "regulars" that offered amazing help, leave. I mainly created this thread in hopes that new people would understand! I feel like its become so dead and people only ask questions that can simply be googled like you mentioned Alyx, or they are only posting selfies. I would love to see more response updates like you mentioned Rozberry, that would be nice to see especially when members are offering tons of info, tips, etc. Ughhh thanks for responding though, hopefully more people will see this and understand how Beautylish is supposed to work and hope it goes back to the way it used to be more...

Sep 10, 2015

Lisa S.

@Emily, its completely understandable to not spend every waking minute on here, we all have busy lives but I feel like its gotten so out of control! I completely agree with ya and wish more people appreciated it like you and some other members do.

I definitely think there needs to be a better way to explain Beautylish to new members, especially on the app...

Sep 10, 2015

Emily B.

It's definitely out of control. Especially the selfies!! MOTD is not translated to selfie.  Gracious.

Sep 10, 2015

Roz X.

Emily, you are always a doll. Alyx, epic...argh our mods and team are SO thorough. I miss some amazing members that were here when I joined quite some time ago.
Lisa, let's hope this acts as food for thought.

Sep 10, 2015

Roz X.

(and please...more members using the search function)

Sep 10, 2015

val p.

Lol I'm glad to see nobody is butthurt by this because of how honest you are. Preach!

Sep 10, 2015

Roz X.

Exactly, Ms. Jacqueline. I'm mindful of those abandoned threads...like Roz from Monsters, Inc. "Watching..always watching."  ;)

Sep 10, 2015

Nikelle B.

I totally agree with each of you.

I've come to the point of being somewhat of a "window shopper". I'll read posts that seem pretty interesting to me but I make it a point to see if the initiator has responded to anyone else. if they have, I'll usually respond..if not..I keep it moving too just as Jacqueline said.
I've learned so much from this site and appreciate all of the time, knowledge and effort that some of the beauties share but sometimes all of the other added "stuff" just makes my head hurt.
I just wish people wouldn't lose sight of what this Beautylish community is supposed to be.

Sep 10, 2015

Alyx T.

Lol rozberry. I always check old threads too, especially when I contributed. Not many update them after 3-4 days unfortunately. I unfortunately have a bad memory with names/faces (and seriously if you don't keep the same photo or very similarly posed then I have to check the profile to see if it's the same person - same with names lol) so I really don't remember who doesn't answer and such, but if they ask several things within a couple weeks and I've never seen any thank yous, I don't answer. I really have a good 15 notes with pre-written responses for super commonly asked stuff. That way I spend little to no time on it, and usually if they can't be bothered to use the search function they don't come back to their thread to say thanks. But lately I've really just ignored any very commonly asked questions. I really only answer unique or stuff I know lots on/have a personal experience to share.

I looooove coming back to a thread after recommending a product or someone else recommended a product and their like "I just picked it up!" And then a couple weeks later it's in all their photos or they send a message on your profile (those people and those who come to your profile to thank you again are the best) but I think unless BL decides to do a "faq" type of pinned announcement thread with links to questions that are asked frequently, that'll never change. I have noticed a couple members who will say thank you for the poster. I know renay j(?) posted on a thread about couple days ago that had a lipstick picture and they wanted to know what color was used, I knew the MUA so it was easy to scroll down her IG and send a screenshot, but it was a couple months old so it took a few minutes. And she just commented something nicely and maturly worded like "thanks alyx for taking your time to help___. It's much appreciated and I'm sure___ thinks so too :)" or something like that, and the OP commented and was like "I totally forgot to thank you, sorry, I was looking up the products immediately " and I really appreciated it. It was a small thing, and I'm sure I've done it too where I ask, someone answers with a product, and I Google it lol. But I don't think there's really a solution to that. You can't filter out the ones who create accounts to ask one question, look at the site again without even logging in, getting their replies and never checking back. Or just people who don't say thank you. Unless they regularly ask questions there's no way to filter it. Especially since it's usually a "or your account will be deleted" type thing, but the people who do that aren't going to care or probably never notice if you deleted their account.

Sep 10, 2015

Sabrina K.

Hi girls - Yes this is a hot topic and it is something we are trying to change.

But as Jacquline said lets not forget all the great and helpfull users we still have - Lets not keep crying over the ones we missed but love the ones we got!

And as someone said - If we want the selfie threads to stop and want more courtesy I have on several occation let you guys know to just not interact on the selfie threads - Let dem disapear in the cyber mist - When you give them attention they will keep coming. The same thing goes for the users that we know don't interact on their threads - Just let them go unanswered!

I feel sad that we again and again see these typs of threads with a rant but no action comes from it!
We work hard to make this site a positive and great community - Because it is! But we are only 6 we need ALL you to help us!
So instead of focusing on the negative then just ignore it and let us deal with it and instead use all your great and helpfull energy on the good threads and on the users who really appriciate all the help that we can give!

Sep 10, 2015

Michelle S.

Agree 100 percent. Most of the members on here are helpful and thank others. I do get annoyed when I give advice and don't get a simple "thank you." I understand that people cannot be glued to their phones all the time, but answer back when you can.
The selfie thing drives me nuts. Our moderators shouldn't have to keep posting the rules over and over. Personally, I've decided to not comment on these selfie threads anymore. If we all post a comment saying to post all products and give details, we're pushing down other threads and that's not fair to those who are following the rules.
I agree with Reny. If you're going to post a selfie in the talk section, people are going to give their opinions and critiques. No one here is trying to put you down. Learn to take criticism. Sure, compliments are great. It's nice to be told you look good, but so many of the beauties on here have a ton of experience and amazing advice to offer. I've learned a ton from being a member on here.

Sep 10, 2015

Alma M.

Thank you goes a long way and if we want to see other threads then by all means make them. This community can develop interesting topics but everyone is just waiting versus actually making one and that doesn't help either. Motd threads could be helpful IF they make it a learning experience and talk about the product's but the community need to also ask questions or develop conversation with the author. If a person is to busy for the day to go back to their thread to say thank you or conversate then maybe wait to make the thread until you're free to talk and keep up with the thread. I feel like Beautylish has come a long way since this seems to be the only worries we've had here and that is great because it can be way worse lol I've seen other sites where it's a huge mean fest of back and forth drama and plain out rude Un lady like behavior towards each other and that is something we don't stand for here on Beautylish. Just think about that for a moment.... now laugh, we're pretty much OK all we have to do is help solve this little issue by being a voice keep helping and always hint to the author by saying you're welcome or you can do what I do on some thread's that I've noticed the author doesn't return I thank the Ladies for taking the time to help the author and I appreciate that. I have a few topics I want to make and are actually a community participation type of thread but I need to be free and ready to keep the conversation going with it but been busy so maybe I can make one tomorrow to help jump start something new. Do any of you have ideas on topics you would like to see more of? Or do you think you can start making some threads you think could be fun, interesting? Don't let anyone take away the kind in you always be the lady and say you're welcome and Thank you. :) Oh and by the way most who have left BL or are gone didn't leave because of things like this, usually it's because they don't follow rules,or just went on a break, trust me on that lol Moderators see more then most, I just want to put a stop to those types of rumors. ;)

Sep 10, 2015

Lisa S.

I agree with what everyone has said above! Thank you for all giving some feedback! A big part of me for starting this rant is because I posted on a thread the other day and the girl only acknowledged one person out of several others that posted. It didn't make me mad that she just ignored me but everyone else too. I'm not commenting on threads to get an overall thank you and thats it, thats not what Beautylish is about. I want to help and I know several ladies who give amazing feedback and are always helping, its just gotten so frustrating. I know you will always have those people but I feel like its been a lot more people doing this than it has before. The search bar needs to be used more. But, I also wish the app and website were the same so threads wouldn't get lost.

Thats a great idea for nobody to comment on those selfie threads. I personally love MOTD when they are done right but the selfies are driving us all mad. I do have to agree with people leaving, I know I took a break for a while for school and was also irritated with some things so I'm sure some are doing the same thing. But I can think of a couple ladies who were on here 2 years ago and deleted their account for the way people treat each other... Anyways, thank you all for commenting!

Sep 10, 2015

Tia A.

I joined BL only a few months ago, but I always make an effort to thank everyone that helps me out
When I found beautylish I was so excited, I've always wanted to have a place where I can talk and learn about makeup/hair/fashion
This site is amazing, many people here have helped and taught me so much about makeup, there was a time when I would go into Sephora and feel so confused and lost and now I feel more comfortable and even experienced when talking about all things beauty
I love BL, and I would hate to see anyone of you awesome people leave
I agree with all the comments the ladies said above, motd or ootd posts should be talk-able
List your products and the steps you took to achieve the look, tell us if you're looking for better products or if you're looking for tips on how to perfect something
This is such a helpful and supportive community if you can't follow the rules then just post your pics to Instagram and Snapchat cause this site is so much more than social media
Thanks for making it through the to my lengthy post
😘

Sep 10, 2015

Lisa S.

@Jacqueline, thanks! Yeah I went ahead and deleted that thread because I didn't want it to get out of control, I definitely agree with you on getting a little intimidated. I guess I'm just not used to posting things like that... I have actually found a few more off topics like that (still beauty related of course) that I've thought were interesting, I'll probably post some soon because you mentioned that, thanks! Glad to see you liked it, I felt like I made people mad about it so I took it down. I remember seeing topics more like that when I first joined Beautylish and its partially why I loved it so much at first. That is also very true about taking a break at times! Thats why I did a few months ago and I feel like it helped... Thanks again!

@Thickra, I know what you mean and you are always so sweet! Thanks!

Sep 10, 2015

Alma M.

Lisa, I missed that thread but don't ever feel intimidated like Jackie mentioned, the talk forums are always opened to beauty related discussions. As long as people can be mature about it. :)

Sep 11, 2015

Lisa S.

Thanks Alma, the thread was only up for a few hours before I deleted it. It was just about makeup trends (I found it on a beauty blog) I felt like people were getting offended which were not my intentions, thats why I went ahead and took it down. But thanks, like I said to Jacqueline, I've found a few more topics I'll have post soon!

Sep 11, 2015

Stephanie G.

I agree. I've also had people rudely thank me. Um, no. I try to answer when I know answers and I rarely get thank yous and on the very seldom occasion that I ask a question I rarely get answers despite thanking people. And I like what Alyx said---I never thought of going back to an old topic and doing an update saying what I chose and if I took the advice. Great idea!!

Sep 12, 2015

Olivia R.

I am guilty of this if I make a mental note to go back to a thread later bc then I just forget. If I don't lose the thread I will always thank someone. How can I find every thread I've created through the app?