Style: what are your opinions on this?

Nov 2, 2014

Shiro M.

So today, I was shopping with my grandmother, when I found a really cute olive green cardigan on sale. I was bringing it to the checkout stand when my grandmother sees and tells me to put it back. I was a little taken aback, because I was paying for it myself and it was cute, so why the heck not? My grandmother proceeded to tell me that it was "not my color" and would look hideous. So I gave in and put it back.

My point is, we see things all the time that direct us to what colors we should/should not wear, which to me is kind of against the whole idea of personal style. They should be treated more as suggestions than rules. If you like how you look in it, then by all means buy it and wear it, even if others may think it doesn't look flattering, and that's their own opinion.

Thoughts? I'd like to hear from all of you.

Nov 2, 2014

Shannon B.

I agree without, but some colors just a not flattering on certain people. So to a point I feel listening to people is a good idea. But definitely not all the way. If you want to wear a certain color, go for it. Also don't forget there are always other shades of that color that will suit the person.

Nov 2, 2014

Brittany M.

Sometimes advice is a good thing but most bold colours fade with washing anyway. If you like something then by all means by it. That's why I take my friends shopping instead my family.

Nov 2, 2014

Roz X.

I'm not an ageist, so I don't dismiss a beloved family member's opinion based solely on the year they were born. Many timeless designers, icons of style, and fierce individuals are/were not young, but remain fierce.
That aside, you should try an item on and evaluate not only how you look in a mirror, but how the color or garment makes you *feel*. If you enjoy it, buy it! Obviously, she didn't intend to hurt you, but some family/friends indeed get stuck in their ways...opinionated outbursts being one we can all relate to. I remember being at an upscale, Italian restaurant...very ritzy...and in the middle of listing their featured wines, the server stopped mid-sentence and blurted out, "I'm sorry, but I just *have* to ask...What did your mom say when you did your hair like that? haha She really made me laugh because it is something that indeed was an issue, yet here I am with my color blocking and V bang. *waves to Mom* She really IS fantastic. :*
My personal approach in life is that while I may delight in one's approval, it is not necessary when making choices for myself. This applies not only to fashion, but to my life as a whole.

You were kind to not make a fuss and that speaks volumes about your character.
In the future, you can always use humor to diffuse a situation such as this.
Next time, whip out your wit with your wallet at the register. ;)

Nov 2, 2014

Kitty K.

It may just be her personal dislike for the color or something silly. See, my family doesn't believe in red lipstick.

In my dad's country, wearing red lipstick means you are a prostitute therefore by wearing red I am identifying myself as one. When I was about 15 years old, my friend had put on some MAC Ruby Woo on my lips and when then I went home my dad literally called me just that. I felt absolutely awful and never touched a bright color again.
Around 18 years old I began to wear make up again. This time, I sported another bright red. He said the same thing and I really paid no attention to him.
If I wore colorful eye make up.. same inappropriate commentary but I just ignored him. Smokey eyes, any kind of dramatic eye make up sparked inappropriate comments. I just continued to ignore him and roll my eyes.
Now I don't really hear a word from him and he'll even compliment me. People compliment my make up and he takes pride in it. My father is very old fashioned so while it may seem like he's putting me down, he has been raised his entire life to believe that red lipstick identifies oneself as a prostitute and failed to realize that in today's modern age and our location- I will sport Purple, Yellow, Green, etc. and it's nothing more than just creative make up.. not prostitution.

Older folks can just be stuck in their ways. Maybe the cardigan suits you just perfectly fine and she dislikes the color green ( And older family folk seem to have this belief that whatever they like and dislike you should as well. ) Always be respectful as that is their opinion but don't take it from word to word. ( I seriously sported the wrong bra 3 cup sizes too small for many years because my mom believed that whatever bra size she was before pregnancy was my bra size... back pain and uncomfort to the max!)

Nov 2, 2014

Roz X.

Fascinating and helpful as always, Kitty.

Nov 3, 2014

Roz X.

Alex, my intention was not to offend, but make certain my personal view. I feel there can be a gap even among peers...and not just as a matter of generation. I always shop alone...lol