If you could change something about yourself what would it be??

Nov 12, 2011

Heather H.

My husband has worked with many people with Aspergers (quite a few programmers have it). They're fairly normal and they just seem socially awkward. For the average person, mental disorders are very confusing and a lot of people don't understand them, probably left over stigma from a few decades ago when people would just sweep their ill family member's secret under the rug.

I am constantly evolving. I am emotionally more mature now than I was 2 years ago, after a lot of hard work learning about myself. I am always trying to self reflect on my reactions.

If I were to change something now, it would be that I would be less argumentative and learn to just let it go.

Maybe it's because I'm older now, but I've learned to accept that not everyone is going to like me and that's okay. I don't seeks approval from many. I don't need to be popular or have a ton of friends (I actually prefer it this way though, less drama). I have my close circle of friends who understand me and who I love. That's all I really need. :) 

Nov 12, 2011

DJ M.

My husband is being tested for Aspergers and I have a brother who is special needs, though he looks completely typical. Growing up with him lead me to work towards earning certification as an advocate. Sometimes people are ignorant or just uneducated, and other times they're just not accepting. We all have our quirks, some just wear theirs on their sleeves ;)

Don't let it get you down. The people that know you well enough should accept you for you and the rest can keep on moving :)

If I were to change one thing about myself: I'd like to be able to stop micro-managing so many different aspects of my life. It would be nice to just "coast" sometimes! I'm a planner by nature, but not everything needs to be so regimented.

Nov 12, 2011

Angela W.

Aspergers must be suuuper tough from the little I DO know about it. See, I'm just socially awkward and sometimes my "politically correct" filter seems to be non-existant. I can't even say that I'm biologically geared to be that way- I'm just shameless! You just have to embrace yourself and try not to apologize too much for simply being who you are. There will always be people who are critical and sensitive, maybe those people just aren't the best friend/mate matches for you. And who cares- there are plenty of other people who will really like you for you.

From all of your posts here on Beautylish it is very apparent that you're lovely and have good intentions. I can't even begin to imagine what you must have to go through with your Asbergers.. but keep your head up! And just remember- no one can make you feel a certain way- at the end of the day it's YOU who decides how you want to react emotionally. So just take control of your happiness and let everyone else worry about how they're feeling.

Nov 12, 2011

Brenda R.

my bowlegged, legs , definetly

Nov 12, 2011

Angela W.

@ Brenda- don't forget that Kate Moss is bowlegged! And she's like one of the most iconic supermodels ever!

Nov 12, 2011

Heather H.

@Brenda and it's also considered kawaii (cute) in Japan. :)