Help?!?!? My dreams are crushed.

Apr 10, 2013

Wilda C.

So.. First, thanks if you're taking some of your time to read this. I'm a 12 year old girl that dreamt of becoming a beauty guru on youtube when she turned 13 since she was 11. She had decided to lose weight, improve her hair care and makeup knowledge. But today when I'm watching videos with my mom and I tell her that I'd wish to be like makeupbymandy24 and macbarbie07 in future. She asked that who was wearing all the bunch of makeup, and I said me. And she just laughed and said a very serious no, ad told me she thought I was just going to do random videos. And that I won't be wearing makeup till I'm 16. And I just felt so sad and angry at the same time! Any advice? Any tips on how to convince her? Should I go for somethig else? HELP?!?

Apr 10, 2013

Wilda C.

She won't agree. Ugh. -.-

Apr 10, 2013

Samantha S.

If you are to became a beauty guru you must not do it for fame but because you enjoy and love it I'm pretty sure you do but you could probably explain this to your mom that your dreams felt crushed but please be open to other choices and paths at the same time

Apr 10, 2013

Bemnia L.

Try explaining to her how important it is to you.

Apr 10, 2013

Samantha S.

You could also try to say that it's not all about the makeup but you also are willing to put yourself out there that's good btw all you girls are beautiful :)

Apr 10, 2013

Megan M.

You can make a deal with her to only wear make up at home while practicing and making videos? Maybe shed agree if she knew you weren't going outside in it? And just tell her that its really important to you. Explain that this is a very big passion of yours and that it's not just going to go away soon. Tell her how upset you'll be if she doesn't let you and tell her you're doing it for the right reasons which is because you love it. Ask if she can compromise with you. I hope this helps and hopefully your mother will allow you to follow your dreams sooner than later. Luck!

Apr 10, 2013

Samantha S.

She may be thinking that would be a waste of time and money too so please put even more thought into why you want to be a guru and what you expect out of it think it through and write out ideas and thoughts and feelings about it and probably share all of it with your mom and don't forget to tell her that you know youre beautiful and you love and appreciate her

Apr 10, 2013

Faith M.

You can start with little amount of makeup and keep it natural. You could do more dramatic looks only for your videos and never leave the house in it. She probably doesn't mean anything by it, she probably just thinks you are beautiful without it, which you are! Never stop believing in yourself. With makeup or without, you ARE beautiful! Goodluck!!

Apr 10, 2013

Wilda C.

Thanks to all of you! I reAlly, truly would enjoy being a beauty guru. I don't even care about the fame or suscribers I can have one and I'll be happy. But she won't agree with me in any way, I have tried and tell her it will JUST be for my videos, she still doesn't agree. But then I also think she's also doing this to me to set my mind in other things. But my mom is hard so probably not. :'(

Apr 10, 2013

Eydís G.

I guess wait a while then see what she says, you're young and a lot happens on the internet nowadays so I guess shes just keeping that in mind!

Apr 10, 2013

Samantha S.

Focus on gaining life experiences for now :) stay positive

Apr 10, 2013

Ashley W.

If you wait it out like your mom asks you can work harder on clearing your skin up and growing your hair out even longer. I know it's tough to have strict-ish parents but they have reasons. My mom won't let me have a channel because of security reasons so I've learned to accept her rules. It's hard and sometimes you just want to argue until you get your way but if you go with her rules she's more likely to trust you fasyer.

Apr 10, 2013

Ashley W.

faster*

Apr 10, 2013

Ellen R.

Just tell her that its what you want to do and that you don't want to go against you but just wants help. About the makeup see what make up does your mum wear? Then complement her and ask of you could try a bit of whatever! Start small like lipgloss or mascara but try to make her see that when you put it on or doing how happy you are!

Apr 10, 2013

Sarah B.

Okay, first of all, you are very young. Your mother is right in being concerned about her 12 year old daughter wearing a lot of makeup - even for videos, and especially for the Internet. Some day, maybe when you have a daughter of your own, you will realize that your mother only means the best for you, because she loves you. You have lots of time to become a beauty guru, and a makeup artist. Don't think that your dreams are crushed because you're not allowed to do exactly what you want right now. Give it a couple of years and she may come around. Gain some experience and perspective on life, focus on school, and prove to her that you are becoming a mature young adult. In a couple of years, you will have learned a lot more than you know now, and it will benefit you in the future. I can promise you that. Good luck.

Apr 10, 2013

Sarah M.

It's okay! I'm not allowed makeup either!

Apr 11, 2013

Livi M.

Tell her that it's a dream of yours, and that she can aprove and disapprove what you put on, or just tell her you won't go heavy.