Family isn't supportive.

Mar 4, 2014

Alissa N.

I didn't know where to put this, so hopefully this is okay. Anyways I was hoping y'all can help me. You see I really want to go to school to become an esthetician, but my whole family is completely against it. I do want to go to college someday, but right now I just know is not the time. I just don't know how to explain to my family that this is what I really want to do.

If y'all could help that would be amazing, thanks!

Mar 4, 2014

Leslie D.

Just be honest on how you feel with them, Either way its YOUR life, YOUR income && YOUR future, nobody really can't tell you how to live it.

Mar 4, 2014

Alissa N.

Actually I'm not independent on them because I have to pay my own way through school.

Mar 4, 2014

Alissa N.

But I do understand exactly what you are saying. However my mom won't let me get loans.

Mar 4, 2014

Alissa N.

Thank you all for your advice. I'll make sure I have a sit down with them and have future plans laid out. Thank you again.

Mar 4, 2014

Lynzie B.

How old are you? If your younger than 18 and live under there roof and there not werid parents that charge you. Get a job save up your money and pay your own way through esthetician  school.

Mar 4, 2014

Alissa N.

I'll be 18 in a few days.

Mar 4, 2014

Alissa N.

Okay thank you Cali, I'll approach this in a more adult manner. Don't get me wrong I don't want to upset them, so thanks for all the advice!

Mar 4, 2014

Kay C.

Just talk to your parents be open and if that don't work and you have to go to a regular college doesn't hurt to take prerequisites while you decided if esthetician is what you really want or something else that by you taking your pre reqs your getting it out the way for whatever else career you might want...hope it works out : )

Mar 4, 2014

Alissa N.

Thank you will do!

Mar 4, 2014

Caitriona H.

I respectfully disagree Velen, it needs to be her decision and the parents should support that. shes the one that has to live with it not them. (Unless they are going to pay for it without getting paid back for it) Oh dear.. I'm not too sure my family have always supported me what I wanted but when I wanted to drop out of secondary school to do a course I liked that would get me into college, I made a plan and had all aspects of it ready before I talked to my mom about it. Have a clear plan a b and c and be firm thats it your life and what you want to do and that you'll pay them back or pay for it yourself but be open and ready for their reluctancy and thoughts too. Be mature, calm and impress them with your research.

Mar 4, 2014

Alissa N.

Thank you all for all the advice I greatly appreciate it!

Mar 4, 2014

Annelise H.

Double major in something general like business and then major in something that'll help you become an esthetician.

Mar 4, 2014

Mylene L.

Alissa, from my own experience, I was once rejected by my parents too. When I was about to enter college my mom wanted me to be a teacher like her. She enrolled me in the expensive university with the course of Bachelor of Science in Education Major in General Science. But after a year, I decided to shift course to Civil Engineering. But my parents were against. I begged and begged for their support financially. But it took them a year to tall to me. Until finally, my dad decided to give me a chance. When I graduated with a degree of Bachelor of Science in Civil Engineering, I cried and I promised to myself I will forever be thankful for them. I hope one day your family will support you too. Just pray and show to them how much you love them no matter what happens.

Mar 4, 2014

Mylene L.

*talk

Mar 4, 2014

Andrea M.

Agree with Caitriona H.
&if your parents are preventing you from teenage interests that's one thing, but preventing you from pursuing the career of your choice is another. "my house, my rules" is applicable in many situations.. this isn't one of them.

Mar 4, 2014

Alissa N.

Thank you all for your advice! Mylene thanks so much for sharing your story, and I'm glad you found something you truly love!

Mar 4, 2014

Klaudia B.

"My house, my rules" is one thing, deciding on someone elses life is another! You're not furniture!
I don't have kids yet, but one thing I know for sure is that I'll have responsabilities towards my children but not rights on their life.
It's true though that if they decide not to support you financially, it's their decision and can prevent you from doing what you love.
You can try to make them understand or start providing for yourself.
Personally, I started my financial indipendence right after high school and paid university, rent and everything on my own.

And please if it's really what you love to do, don't give up.
I gave up on my dream.of being an actress, not for money support, but because of the disapoint in my mother's eyes everytime I mentioned it and I think I'll regret it forever.
If I could go back, I wouldn't do the same mistake again.
Never live with regret!

Mar 4, 2014

Klaudia B.

In my house it was the same Velen, but after being indipendent it couldn't affect me anymore.
And I think being the first child, I opened the way to my brother and sister, making my family learn and that rule does not apply on them anymore.

Mar 4, 2014

Klaudia B.

Oh thank you so much, it really means a lot!
I want kids so bad but won't have them till I feel I can be as good as I want to be as a mom.

Mar 4, 2014

Klaudia B.

You rock girl! You are a tough woman!
I've had that kind of relationship with the man who gave me life too, but he was never violant to me personally!

Lots of love to you!

Mar 5, 2014

Jennifer M.

I'd like to offer my prospective to you. A lot of trade schools seem to offer a easy solution when a college degree is not in the picture. Go to school, learn a career, easy right? Not so much. If you want to do this, I strongly encourage the following to prevent heartbreak. Do not attend a private school. Most lack proper accreditation, and the ones that do make misleading claims on job placement. Look for community college programs. You won't spend the rest of your life saddled in debt that you won't make enough to pay off. Do not ever get a private student loan. They are not eligible for income based repayment plans and the interest rate will go up on them. Deferment are also difficult. Honestly, I have to encourage you to listen to you parents. Learning a trade seems easier than doing full time college. Being a make up artist or aesthetician is a passion without a reliable income. Before you plunk down money, research your earnings opportunities vs the amount of money a certification costs, and see if you can live with your income and student loan debt. You might find that your getting the better deal working on a degree right out of the gate if your parents can contribute, or will let you live with them rent free

Mar 5, 2014

Jennifer M.

I'm trying to encourage you to look at long term Financial issues. One of the biggest mistakes folks make when they are young is taking on student loan debt in a field that does not pay enough to live on and repay the debt. A lot of 18 year olds have no clue what a credit score is, and how a low one from too much debt or missed payments affects their future in terms of interest rates, insurance costs or employment opportunities. A lot of 18 year olds have no idea the differences between private loans and federal student loans that have better terms and protections in it. Student loans cannot be discharged in bankruptcy. Your facing a lot of decisions now that will effect you for the next 20-30 years. Following your passion is great and all, but the reality is that your likely not going to be self supporting doing that, and it's going to put you you in a impossible financial hole. Your parents have probably made their share of mistakes, and they want help you from making them too. Adulthood is not about want you want, it's about doing things you don't want to do to get the things you want. If your parents are willing to help out now with a degree in any way, it's going to be 10 times easier to to it now than to wait. Even if it's you get to live at home rent free, that's a offer you should not pass up.

Mar 5, 2014

Shelley W.

As a mom of a teenager who is laying down her future career path...I think you're parents are only thinking about your future financial security. A college degree is no guarentee of a secured career but as a parent we want the very best for our kids. My daughter is 14 and she is building her side career as a MUA (the kid has completed several paid gigs and gearing up for prom season) but she tells me repeatedly that its just going to be a side gig to her ultimate career goal because she doesn't want to depend on us parents to pay for her education. I think if maybe you presented it as a career to fund your college education when your ready to make such a serious committment then maybe they will change their mindset. Going to college is not cheap so if you go in now knowing that your heart isnt 100% into it you could be wasting serious money and time if you decide to drop out or constantly changing your major. On the flipside...if college is in your future down the line I wouldn't delay it too long. I'm a one of those nerds who gets a kick out of watching CSPAN and reading higher education journals and the federal government (if you're in the States) is talking about making even further cuts in federal student aid (financial) when its already tight enough to get aid. Less $$$ in financial aid packages and tighter regulation for student loans backed by the government ( those do not require a co-signer unless you go for a private loan or PLUS loan). I'm sure once you chat with them and give them a game plan I'm sure they will be more supportive. Hang in there beautiful. ;)

Mar 5, 2014

Alissa N.

Thank you all so much for your honest advice! I needed to hear the truth and I'm so thankful for the advice. It has helped me look at this from a better stand point, and I'm thankful for that. Especially the financial advice, so thanks so much I'm truly grateful!