Ok here I go...please try to be as objective as possible...

Aug 7, 2013

Kenzie L.

Every once in awhile someone will post a topic about...dun dun dun dun! modesty! (gasp) and it starts a huge fight. right off the bat ill say that I'm of the more modest side but in no way is that a direct link to who I am as a person. same goes for those who choose to flaunt it. both dressers can be good or bad people

that being said...the argument comes up that one should not let men influence their clothing decisions. and as much as I wish that could happen I don't really think that's possible. my thought process is if a woman is choosing to dress sexy (which again is NOT a bad thing) but isn't doing it to attract a man then she must be doing it to spite them.

I want someone to tell me how on or off base I am. I'm the type of person who wants to understand both sides not just know about them...

Aug 7, 2013

Lexi V.

I totally agree Kenzie!! I am more like you, being on the modest side and stuff...I don't wear booty shorts or crop tops but honestly, I guess it is all in personal style and preference. I choose to dress classy, not trashy. There is a very fine line between being sexy v.s. being skanky. I think you are right on point about the subject and I also think people who dress skank are just begging for more attention from other people because they don't fully accept themselves. You have the right idea sweet thaang!

Aug 7, 2013

Desiree M.

Exactly!

Aug 7, 2013

Kenzie L.

But that's just the thing...I do infact know women who dress rather skimpy but are totally comfortable with themselves. I don't necessarily believe that women who show skin have low self esteem but I have a hard time believing that its not for attention. I want to understand why one would choose that kind of negative attention over more positive and effective options.

Aug 7, 2013

Lexi V.

Yeah I see that. I'm the kind of person that is very comfortable in my own skin and everything and I wouldn't have any problem wearing something revealing...but, I don't want other people to be comfortable around me while I'm dressed like that. when I dress like that, its for a special occasion, so it's out of the ordinary and catches people off guard rather than them just expecting that everyday. I think it is just a matter of respect. because honestly, if you respect yourself and treat yourself like a woman, others will too, but if you dress like that (no matter what kind of person you are inside) people's first impressions are going to be effected by that in a negative way, and that loses respect for you.

Aug 7, 2013

Lexi V.

^ not saying specifically "you" haha just you in whoever is reading this :)

Aug 7, 2013

Aim K.

Well I'm more of a modest person myself. and no not because I'm not comfortable in my skin, I am in fact very much comfortable.
but I also do believe that people should dress appropriate to the place they're in. that's modesty to me.so I don't preach on wearing a jean to the beach for example. but on the other hand booty shorts to school is not really appropriate too.
and I choose modest because I choose not to draw attention to me by random guys in the street. most of them are just effin creepy anyways.
sorry if that was too long x

Aug 7, 2013

Kenzie L.

Lol I got it :) and I'm a firm believer in that what you wear directly effects your life. the whole 'if it looks like a duck' mentality is all people have to go off initially. people will assume your offering more than you're probably willing to give is my thought process

Aug 7, 2013

Kenzie L.

And yes. I also believe there are places where that kind of attire is totally appropriate and fun to wear

Aug 8, 2013

Linda R.

Hahaha I agree with what you said @Ameera. I don't want no creepy men staring at my goods lol that's for my husband's eyes only. And hey I do like to dress up nice for my hubby but at the same time be modest. Who said you can't look good and be modest at the same time? Am I right? I could wear a pencil skirt n heels n still be deemed as "sexy" from the hubby of course! ^_^

Aug 8, 2013

Kenzie L.

Right linda!? people equate modesty with uptight little pilgrims and that's SO NOT the case!

Aug 8, 2013

Lauren M.

I don't think that's always the case, although I will admit a handful of girls dress the way they do for boys. I dress how I want to dress for myself and nobody else. Most days I keep myself covered up, but there are some days where I will wear a pushup bra with a vneck and some short shorts just because I feel like it.

Aug 8, 2013

Kenzie L.

And I wouldn't even call that immodest because your intentions are to please you and make yourself feel attractive.