Bullying that never stops

Jan 14, 2013

Tristan R.

Ok what you do is next time just smile and say whatever deary... nudge her to lay a hand on you... don't lay a hand on her... when she strikes you call the police and file charges... full charges then file for a restraining order... they will give tempt for like six months... then get full... bitch won't bother you again xD

I am to old for that fighting I just handle it 

Jan 13, 2013

Maria M.

Fighting isn't going to solve anything but show her that she has been hurting you. Whenever she points negative things about you smile and say thank you. But in your head say something positive about yourself. I was bullied and learned that for every negative said I could find something beautiful about myself. As time goes on you will feel better about yourself so don't let what ever insecurities this bully has ruin your life. 

Jan 13, 2013

Brittany O.

DO NOT FIGHT HER PLEASE. You don't even have to kill her with kindness. Ignore the stuffing out of her or confront her face to face when she is alone and tell her she needs to stop acting like an 8 year old. Seriously what grade are you guys in? Please think this thru your a beautiful young girl that doesn't need to resort to violence unless your defending yourself. Hun please think about your future. You want a good rep don't you??

Jan 10, 2013

Krista C.

I say beat her if she pushes to many boundaries. Untill than always have friends around you. I used to get bullied a lot but I beat the girl and she stopped bulling everyone 

Jan 10, 2013

Rachel C.

I grew up in a rough part of town and was bullied when I was younger. She only stopped bullying me when I finally stood up for myself and fought back. It was so bad that my teacher even told me to fight back. Needless to say after that fight, she never picked on me after and also people had more respect for me and didn't mess with me after this. I'm not saying violence is the answer, but worked for me. Also, this was 20 years ago when I was in grade school. Times have changed.

Jan 10, 2013

Loren B.

Monica you're a beautiful person , feel free to contact me via profile if you want to talk more. I have so been there and I hate to see that even with all the attention bullying gets it still persists. If the school doesn't take action go to the district. They are responsible for maintaining a bully free school. You are there to learn not to be ridiculed or intimidated. 

Jan 10, 2013

Loren B.

In her case if she was going to get bored it would have happened already- she is seeing your inaction, as well as the earlier fight as weakness - this is a very predatory type of bullying. Make sure you report specifics of what when and where it's happening and report each altercation as they happen. You don't need to keep her secret 

Jan 10, 2013

Loren B.

Bully's do it because they can. Ignoring it won't work but neither will fighting because it shows that she's getting to you. You need to show that a- yea you can take it and dish it have a friend practice taking and talking smack you also meed to point out how rude, obnoxious, mean spirited and simply vile and 'low class' her behavior is-verbally of course. Never show how bothered you get but laugh back wondering aloud why anybody would say such a thing or what a simply awful thing to say. Kind of 'ha ha what a stupid thing to say - if I had such stupid thoughts I'd hope to have the good sense to keep my mouth shut'. Also rat her out- a Lot. Make sure the school knows that she is trying to pick a fight with you. Keep a record of what she does. Bullying is more likely when there is little or no consequence. Have your parents Demand the other girls parents come in for a conference. NEVER start an altercation - just make observations how lame, ignorant, racist, etc whatever is most appropriate about her comments. I was horribly bullied for years and it didn't stop until real consequences were faced because bullying is a self reinforcing behavior - bullies find the activity fun whether or not you react. Plus she already knows it bothers you. You need to know that you're worth standing up for and protecting. 

Jan 10, 2013

Kemarea W.

Get over her and what doesn't matter won't cross your mind. I always think to myself who is she? That's right no one.

Jan 10, 2013

Mimi K.

Hey girl. It's tough. Hang in there. You know you're a wonderful person and nothing this bully can say or do will change that. Stay strong. 

Jan 10, 2013

Amy E.

If you honestly can't think of a reason that this girl is bullying you then it's because she is jealous of you. I was never bullied in school but there was one girl who always had a problem with me and she didn't try to hide it. She never said anything to me but she might roll her eyes at me occasionally and she would talk about me behind my back. And you know the types of things she used to say about me? That I was lanky (for anyone that doesn't know its sort of a derogatory term for a tall person), anorexic and a know-it-all (because I was smart and I excelled in all subjects). She also once said that I was tall, skinny and pretty but a horrible person, which couldn't be more untrue. And she wouldn't know anyway because she had never taken the time to get to know me! She was insecure about herself and so disliked me because she was jealous. I'm pretty sure that this is what is happening with you. It's hard because every situation is different. Yes you could suggest that it's better to take this girl aside and talk to her about it but you know what, if she is jealous of you I would imagine she could become more aggravated. And I do not advocate violence but you know who bullies don't pick on? People who they think are stronger than them. People who intimidate them. If you decide to talk to her, I would do it when her friends aren't there. If her friends are there she's more likely to lash out or try and show off in front of them. If she's alone she'll feel more vulnerable. There were times that I was left alone with girls like the one I mentioned before and they would become different people. It's not exactly the same I know, because I wasn't bullied but they change from these people that come across as confident and intimidating to the exact opposite. 

Jan 10, 2013

Maura P.

why not try and sit down with an adult that you feel comfortable with with her and get to the root of the problem:)

Jan 10, 2013

Brianna M.

Sarah L. No need to be sarcastic first of all second this is her problem if she takes this. She will be traumatized for he life example me i went from happy to alway guarded suicide starts to become an option in this situation not a big family brawl and the school can't always help I got jumped in the bathroom all they did was suspend the girls it's self defense it has to come to that sometimes 

Jan 10, 2013

Krystal B.

Oh remember to be sweet, but assertive^_~

Jan 10, 2013

Krystal B.

One I've been there. Fighting is never the answer, and ignoring it will only make u more and more defensive as the anger inside of u builds... The best solution is to (and this may sound insane) pull her to the side have a 1 on 1 and address the issue, she will be caught off guard, and with her "friends" around she will be more receptive and I can almost guarantee (unless she's a wild boar) that it'll all die down. Promise

Jan 10, 2013

Chrisi P.

Yes, I have been in the position of a bullied victim, and I know that from experience that violence isn't the answer. There may be bullies who continue after the violence. The girl who started this topic stated that she had been a fight, and got suspension, and the girl is still acting up. If she continues with this violence, it's not going to look good on her part. What if her parents decide to talk to the authorities? The authorities might not take it seriously because they see that this girl got suspension for fighting and might assume that the bullying is B.S and false claims. It won't look right on her part. Fighting will make it worse.

Jan 10, 2013

Sarah L.

Chrisi P I couldn't agree with you more. You are absolutely right. 

Jan 10, 2013

Sarah L.

Absolutely ridiculous. 

Jan 10, 2013

Sarah L.

No. Get her big ass daddy round with some of his big ass friends and ask to speak to this girls father. Then threaten him with violence and terrorise the whole family! Why not. If violence is the resolve!? Get everyone involved! 

Jan 10, 2013

Brianna M.

The people that are giving advice if you have never been in this situation you're on the outside looking in you may know what's best but you don't know what works

Jan 10, 2013

Chrisi P.

Honestly, if my child was being bullied, and the school didn't do anything nor the bully's parents, I'd come in threatening the school with a lawsuit. The school would have to take action after that or else the court will see that they're in the wrong. 

Jan 10, 2013

Vanessa R.

I feel like bullies bully people that they think are better than themselves. I was at the receivi end of bullyinh when I was younger also. I think if you ignore them they will move on to the next one unfortunately for that poor person. the only reason why it has began again is because you gsve them the attension they wanted.

Jan 10, 2013

Brianna M.

Talking doesn't always work and when parents talk to people's children it makes it worse 

Jan 10, 2013

Sarah L.

I find it so interesting how this topic always divides people. You get a real sense of who the decent human beings are and who the young girls are who can't see resolve in a situation. Other than violence. 

Jan 10, 2013

Allison W.

NEVER HAVE YOUR PARENTS DRIVE TO HER HOUSE AND MAKE IT THEIR PROBLEM. That fuels her fire. 'She had to have her mommy get involved' and it will spread around school and make you look really childish. It happened to me. I shut them all up when I beat her to the floor and then some. She didnt bother me again. After that she had quite the change of attitude towards me. Never bothered me again.