Bullying that never stops

Jan 9, 2013

Paisly H.

Get em with kindness! This honestly the missing key to the door that unlocks greatness :))

Jan 9, 2013

alyssa f.

tell the principle!!!!!!!!!! same thing happened to me tell the principle asap!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Jan 9, 2013

Allison W.

I agree with Ave. Id do something about it. Kids these days are spineless. Talking wont help, ignoring does nothing, breaking their jaw is quite effective. I dont promote violence, but it does seem to work with stuff like this. Girls are really vicious to other girls these days but theyre nothing when theyre put in their place.

Jan 9, 2013

Megan M.

Well obviously ignoring her doesn't work, you've already done that. I'd say talk to the school. If they don't do anything for you insult her back and tell her how much of a waste of a person she is. Recommend her therapy for her self esteem problems.

Jan 9, 2013

Ave M.

^^^ it is true. I have talked to therapists, principals, teachers, police officers, and many people in the court system that agree. While most of them made it very clear they don't condone the act of violence ALL of them openly addmitted that in their personal experiences when a victim lashes out an used violence the bullying stops in almost ALL cases.

That had to say something. Too many people tell their kids to kill them with kindness or ignore them and the fact is, it just isn't a proper solution.

Jan 9, 2013

Ave M.

And telling on them? You will get made fun of more I can almost guarantee it. It's sad but most principals aren't even trained to handle situations like that. And I've found that most teacher were actually once bullies themselves.

Jan 9, 2013

Neshea C.

I say talk to the school as well & if nothing is effective then take matters into your own hands is the only thing left to do . They can't say you didn't try to seek other help 

Jan 9, 2013

Ave M.

^^^ yes that's a good idea. At least then you have a very valid reason.

Jan 9, 2013

Monica K.

I appreciate everyone's input and opinion. I feel like taking matters into my own hands is my only option but i'm still trying to come up with more options to do everything i can to avoid my last option. Don't tell me to ignore it and act like it doesn't bother. It does. And i've played that role far too long and has gotten me nowhere. I honestly don't think i did anything wrong for this girl and her friends to dislike me so much. But in class, you could just feel how thick the animosity was. You could cut it with a knife. Something was bound to happen. I confronte, we argued, she hit first and i stuck up for myself. Now that i'm back from suspension, it seems as though she has unfinished business with me. I'll be more than willing to go for a round two. Pardon my french, but i can't standddddd this bitch. She needs to be put in her place and stop seeking for so much attention.

Jan 9, 2013

Sarah L.

Always talk to your teachers and parents. If you have an older sibling or cousins talk to them. Don't let her bother you or get to you in any way. 

Jan 9, 2013

Sarah L.

If she wants to behave in a poor manner and conduct herself with such little decorum that's her issue. Don't do the same back. You're a lady and ladies don't behave that way. 

Jan 9, 2013

Sarah L.

Lashing out with violence is not the solution. I can't believe how many people are advocating "taking matters into your own hands" when has beating someone up ever been a solution. It's utterly nonsensical. 

Jan 9, 2013

Ave M.

She does bother her though.

Seriously she sounds like she needs a broken jaw to realize you can't treat people like they are worthless.

Do what you feel is right!

Jan 9, 2013

Ave M.

Sarah you couldn't be more wrong. I don't know what your personal experience with this situation is but it sounds like you don't have any what so ever.

Jan 9, 2013

Ave M.

Obviously violence works. Otherwise there would have never been war. Why do countries start wars? Because they are affective. 

Jan 9, 2013

Akaanksha R.

I would talk to a counsler or someone but dobt fight bck with her it like fighting fire with fire

Jan 9, 2013

Ave M.

Effective*

Jan 9, 2013

Akaanksha R.

I meant dont fight bck lol

Jan 10, 2013

Ave M.

The better question is when has ignoring your problems and never standing up for yourself gotten anyone anywhere?

My friend Alex ended up hanging from the rafters in his garage because he took everyone's advice and tried his best to ignore his bullies. That worked so great for him didn't it?

Jan 10, 2013

Michelle S.

Girls like that seem to be pulled together and cool but I swear to you that when you get older you will be on the up and up and she'll have her own issues. I swear if you keep your head high and priorities strength...if it gets to be to much find her flaw and call her out on it.... Like you just make fun of me because your fat... But really just know that in the long run you'll be the stronger one... Fighting is ghetto...and makes her look ghetto

Jan 10, 2013

Michelle S.

Oh and make yourself feel as beautiful as you are

Jan 10, 2013

Ave M.

Sad thing is that that's not always true Michelle. There are several girls I went to school with that landed great jobs and very handsome boyfriends and most of them all drive nice cars, have beautiful houses, go in beautiful vacations and seem very happy. And the girls they made fun if in school ended up either being single moms, cashiers at the local grocery store still living with their parents or living of off welfare because they are too depressed to work.

I know these people personally. It's sad but it's true. The nastiest girls I knew in highschool have it made and their victims are just trying to get by. Maybe it's because their self esteem was so horrible because of the years of verbal abuse they had to deal with. It crushed their spirit.

Jan 10, 2013

Michelle S.

Or call her mom

Jan 10, 2013

Chrisi P.

You're lucky that you're in school when bullying is taken more seriously than it was when I was in middle school (10+ years ago). I was bullied and harassed every day by a group of girls and I went to all authoritative figures---my guidance counselor, the vice principal, the principal, even the substance abuse counselor and they didn't do S^&#*! I was bullied online as well and when I came to the principal, instead of her doing anything to help she lectured me on how I wasted time on the internet when I could have been using that time to do homework. The substance abuse counselor told me that me coming in to talk to him about this was foolish and I needed to grow up. To this day, I'm upset about what happened and how they didn't do anything. Thankfully, times are different and now younger people are going to schools in a time that currently has absolute zero tolerance on all types of bullying.

The girls that did this to you are insecure about themselves. They will learn one day that what they did is something they should regret. Things will turn out better. Some of the girls who did this to me were remorseful and expressed it when we got to high school. Don't get into fights as that will make it worse. I was in your position once and I know how much you would want to kick their a$$es, but fighting will make things worse. Tell your counselor, the vice principal, even the principal if you have to. If they don't do anything, inform your family on what is going on and see if they can talk to them. One thing I wished my parents did was go to the principal and yell at her for not doing anything and I was bullied for a year straight. It affected my schoolwork, I would cut gym class sometimes and not participate, and I didn't even want to go on the bus anymore. Your parents need to be affirmative because the school needs to do something about it.

It will blow over, just hang in there. <3

Jan 10, 2013

Brianna M.

I'm sorry but I was severely bullied to the point of almost suicide because the girl was jealous but I fought back with my voice and my hd I know it's wrong to put your hands on people but it will only work if you beat her @$$