Need advice! Subject CONFIDENCE.

Feb 14, 2013

Rosie A.

So my little sister is 12 years old and has terrible confidence and never wants to go out or fix her self up she hit puberty really quick she's my height and I'm going on 19 (5"7-5"8) she broke out like crazy and has very puffy curly hair she feels awkward and uncomfortable at school they tease her and are jerks! I try my best to help because I'm obsessed with beauty but I don't know what else to do! Please as many ideas as possible! No one should feel that way :( what helps you guys look and feel beautiful?

Feb 14, 2013

Eveline L.

Tell her you can help. Does she have friends at school? Maybe she could do a new sport, meet people, a new haircut.
Support her and make her feel she can trust you. Good luck!!

Feb 14, 2013

Katie S.

Ihad the same problem wit my sis nd she not into make up as me eitha but itell her products to use that she can use like cleanser to help wit her skin nd products for her hair

Feb 14, 2013

Rosie A.

Eveline she's very focused on school she has a zero period and revolves her time around that she can't run she has flat feet :/ she's following in my footsteps tho she loves to swim I'm a swim instructor I'm going to pay for some lessons thank you!!:)


Katie it's horrible huh I feel so bad they call her names and I've told her what to use and buy her so much stuff but no change :/ I think she gave up a little but she tells me she doesn't like feeling ugly I'm not sure what face products to get her I buy her a lot of wash :)

Feb 14, 2013

Karishma S.

It's a part of everyone's life. I felt the same way. I was teased for being short an having a really ugly uni brow. Tell her to never give up. It's a stage and everyone goes thought it but the key is to not lose it and ruin who you are or succumb to them. They are jerks and in the end that's all they will ever be.

Feb 14, 2013

Olivia D.

Oh man, this time of your life is the hardest, re assure her that she is beautiful with or with out makeup. You don't need makeup or beauty products to feel pretty. All bullying comes from low self esteem. Your sister seems like a bright intelligent girl.

Make up is fun, so maybe make a day out of it. Take your sister to a counter for a one on one lesson on how to cover trouble areas. And maybe pick out a few lip glosses and mascara?

Feb 14, 2013

Eveline L.

I wear glasses since aged 4 and I have good results so they called me nerd.
People are mean in that age sometimes. she should ignore them and be strong. Difficult, but possible.

Feb 14, 2013

Lizzy M.

Sounds like me a few years back!
Have her try out the Clean Start range by Dermalogica, or get a prescription from your doc for something like Isotrex or Tetralysal.
Make sure she loves her height & stands up straight! I know it sounds silly, but you will not believe the kind of back problems I had to deal with after slouching for years (of course, it was caused by a combination of things, but better safe than sorry.)
For her hair: deep condition once a week, and use a leave in conditioner instead of a normal one. Be gentle when brushing through and use curl defining products to really make the curls stand out.
She should try out a drama or theatre program. It's a lot of fun and definitely helps build confidence. Strange as it sounds, she should also try something like kick boxing or martial arts. It's another great wait to become more sure of herself & meet new people! For me, my dancing has given me a lot of joy & confidence, and I've met some of my closest friends there! If none of these interest her, let her make a list of things that interest&excite her, and see if you can find a hobby or activity that matches up with that.

I wrote about body image on my blog... http://vividelectra.tumblr.com/post/37496907777/day-two

This video also expresses what I was trying to say in more detail. http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=-gwSQRtdsgA



Hope this helped :) Its an awkward stage for everyone, and its just one of those things that we need to overcome by ourself...of course, the support from her family will help!

Feb 14, 2013

Rosie A.

Lizzy that was soooooooo helpful! That you so much! And thank you to everyone for taking the time to respond :)!!

Feb 14, 2013

Eveline L.

Whenever you need advice!!

Feb 15, 2013

Toni D.

I had sorta the same trouble your sister is going through at 12. I didn't really get bullied but some people would tell me I was "ugly" and it hurt me bad. Once I got a little older, I started wearing makeup and doing my hair; now everyone says I'm gorgeous and stuff (not trying to brag at all). I mean maybe it's not time for her to change yet. I'm 15 now and still struggle a little. But I mean we all get insecure, it's a part of life. I hope this helps.

Feb 15, 2013

Bethany K.

Wish id had a sister like you.

Some of the girls had some great advice up there.

Feb 16, 2013

Daria A.

Let her trust you as much as possible so you can help her, let her know you care, too. When everyone else goes through that awkward stage, she will probably be out of it

Feb 16, 2013

Carolyn S.

I was as tall as my 5th grade teacher and started having acne when I was ten. I completely understand her pain. But I promos you and her, things only get better form here. It took years for me to build confidence that was torn down in grade school. If she was to look in the mirror and say one new thing she likes about herself out loud each day it would help. It sounds goofy, but it will help.

Feb 16, 2013

Ili R.

Give her a makeover!

Feb 16, 2013

Kelsey R.

I'm also a beauty freak but in this case makes up perhaps isn't the solution you need to help her realise she's beautiful naturally aswell as with makeup. No girl likes to feel ugly but using makeup can be a cover up when you take it off youl feel just as bad as before. Reassure her. Let her you know you care tell her it's just a phase. 5ft 8 is model height she should be grateful!! Hah it's all about reassurance I think and support x

Feb 16, 2013

Lolli S.

Wow its sad to read your post.I'm a mom and I'm probably older than mst of you on here.If this was my kid smeone at school wod knw who and the hell I am!I'm a Mexican Madea and I dnt play.I'm old skol I hve zero tolerance to thanks nw generation bull ot of control disrespectful I cn act and do whatever I want bk talking attitude!that mks me very heated!anyways teasing either mks either better or bitter.I wod nvr allow that to go on.she nds to speak wit an adult smeone to encourage her and help wit sme of these issues.I'm afraid of depression and self distruction.I wish I could talk to her.talk to your mom or smeone you trust.Thanks is smethg nt to b ignored of her feelings and selfesteem.Da world is cruel and ugly bt it is wht it is.thank God your reaching ot for help I'm proud of you for your love and compassion for your sis.I've told my sons many times nvr to turn on ea other cuz it will alz b thm.

Feb 16, 2013

Lolli S.

At 12=which is around my son age thy r nt concerned bout there clothes.thy might be physically mature bt nt their mind.Do everything you cn to help her self esteem everythg advised above!counseling wod b also good encourage her nt to b like you bt better.Its a hard subject.

Feb 16, 2013

Shamaila K.

Hi my problem is I Dnt hv confidant to speak Eglish with and infront of my cousins and my sister's husband and even infront and with my husband.I'm other language speaker.I'm learning English from college.I cn speak infront and with my teacher.when I speak infront my cousins and sister's husbands they laugh on my English.so I'm losing confidence.please help me wot I do.I living in united country.Here is To speak English is very important.please help me wot I do to get confidence.

Feb 16, 2013

Hi C.

Tell her that when Megan fox was in grade school she had a unibrow and was also teased but now she is one of the prettiest tv stars out there.

Feb 16, 2013

Lolli S.

Shamalila k. Ur writing is very good!my father has bn and thanks country for 40 yrs +and he still dnt knw all proper English words,my husband has a hard time expressing feelings cuz hs language is Spanish first me I dnt speak fluent Spanish and I wnt speak wit certain ppl cuz its broken.My father didn't teach us fluent Spanish so ot of 100+grandchildren me my siblings dnt speak fluent Spanish bt my grandma understands me.Their is prejudice and my own culture.My family speaks English wit accent bt I respect thm.your alright!!its cool to speak other languages..

Feb 16, 2013

Rachel T.

Make sure she knows you're always there and does she have a best friend? I think with friends, as long as you have 1 you can tell almost everything to and 2/3 you can be happy being yourself and hanging around with is enough.
She's very lucky to have you as a sister