
The Social Experiment
Perception is everything isn't it? About a year ago, I dyed my hair pink. During those six months, I noticed that people acted more guarded when I was around and women paid more attention to their kids when they were next to me—they even held their purses tighter! That's when I first learned that your makeup and hair styling all affect how others treat you. But I like being a chameleon and changing my look all the time—I've even learned to tune out other people's reactions. That's why I decided to try this social experiment. I figure, what better way to test society today than by taking three completely different beauty looks to the street? I see people of many ages and races during my morning commute to San Francisco. The Bay Area is a very diverse place, but even so, the interaction from person to person varies based on what they look like.
Day One

On the first day of the experiment I decided to dress very edgy. I put hair extensions in my hair and even added a purple piece to punch it up. Using Sugarpill makeup, I rocked a pink to purple gradient brows, heavy colorful eye makeup and green glitter (courtesy of Obsessive Compulsive Cosmetics). I also accessorized with spike jewelry, neon clothing, and snakeskin leggings. Needless to say, in a train full of business people heading to work at 8 in the morning, I definitely stood out. And the results were surprising. Most women and children did a double take because they weren't expecting to see someone looking like that on the morning express train. Soon after, they kept their eyes to themselves were extra careful not to lock eyes with me again. When it was clear that the car was being filled up, no one would sit next to me. I was even avoided on the street, when I walked two blocks to my office. To have a common denominator in this experiment, I decided to stop a businessman everyday while he was busy looking at his phone to ask for the time. Day One's gentleman was slightly startled but very polite. He smiled and lightheartedly gave me the time with no judgement. Throughout the day I noticed that younger men were more willing to interact with me, whereas the more mature man would completely ignore me.
Day Two

On the second day, my hair was a tall and dramatic fusion of a Gwen Stefani-inspired fauxhawk and victory roll, complete with makeup to match. I was feeling retro, so I wore a lace cardigan, black high-waisted skirt, and peep toe heels. Again, no one sat next to me on the train at all in the morning and I noticed that I was getting glares from younger women. The businessman I stopped on Day Two to ask for the time was taken aback. He caught his breath and bashfully gave me the time. It was quite sweet. The surprising observation was the positive body language and face-to-face interactions I received from middle-aged men and women. All were very friendly and one person even complimented on my look. On the way to lunch, three construction workers stopped mid-conversation to watch me walk past in what seemed to be admiration.
Day Three

The last day of the experiment was dedicated to being completely natural and almost bare-faced. I went for a comfortable and low key outfit with a loose grey cardigan, v-neck tee, and jeans. Out of the three days, this was the only day that someone sat next to me on the train. In fact, I sat next to ladies going to San Francisco and then back home at the end of the day. The businessman that I stopped on Day Three barely even noticed me when I asked for the time and quickly brushed me off shortly after replying. Although I was dressed the most comfortably on Day Three, I felt like I was invisible in a sea of people—I blended in too well. Barely anyone gave me direct eye contact and I even had a man not keep a door open for me—when my hands were full! This day seemed to be kind of dull and disappointing, but I did notice that younger men were more interactive with me, especially when it came to eye contact and general acknowledgment.
The Conclusion
In the end, I've realized that you can't please everyone. You should feel comfortable in your own skin and look however you want. Whether you choose to wear a giant streak of teal over your lids or don't have the time to even bother with flat-ironing your hair, what you look like should not make you feel like any less of a person. Enjoy what you do with your overall look because life is short and you might as well play while you can.
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2 weeks ago
Tal M.
I really like businessman number 2 :-)
Apr 16, 2013
Erin W.
I absolutely love you jasmine
Oct 23, 2012
Lauren P.
I love your Social Experiment articles. But it appears to me that while men say they prefer women to wear less, more natural make up, when we do take their advice and put down the glittery pink eyeshadow, they don't seem to look at us twice! So I say, do your make up how you want it, not how some bloke says we should look. What do they know anyway? ;)
Oct 17, 2012
Keegan D.
I definitely feel you on look one and your pink hair experiences. In West Michigan, people are certainly conservative. Now that bright hair is becoming a "trend" it's getting more acceptable but for a long time I was just that freaky girl with the weird hair....shame people can't see past things like that.
Aug 28, 2012
Taylor T.
I love all three looks.
"You can be the ripest juiciest peach, but there will always be someone who hates peaches."
Jun 05, 2012
Marty B.
This is really awesome an interesting. I don't understand why no one would sit next to you on the train the second day, though. I could understand women feeling intimidated, but I don't see why guys would avoid sitting next to a conventionally pretty lady.
As someone who usually dresses pretty bright/edgy (albeit I don't do bright/elaborate makeup unless I'm going to an event-- yours looks amazing, btw), the results of the first day are kind of depressing to me. It saddens me to think that the way I like to dress regularly might be the kind of look that causes others to make negative assumptions of me.
On a related note, I found the way I was treated most noticeable when I went shopping-- when I dress frumpy and 'normal', I get ignored a lot. When I dress 'nice' and 'fashionable', I get a lot of looks (sometimes followed by smiles) and the staff are usually really nice to me. When I dress 'weird' or super colorful, I also get a lot of looks, but people always avert their eyes if I catch them looking. The staff checks up on me very constantly, but their interactions with me are very short and to the point. Definitely feels more like they think I'm gonna steal something than that they actually want to help. At the same time, I get a lot of positive feedback too, but I live in Austin, which is pretty alt-friendly. Common points of conversation tend to be my brightly dyed hair or, when I wear them, colorful striped stockings (ex., bitches love my rainbow socks).
The way I feel with the first and second one may be attributed at least partially to my confidence, but whenever I dress odd/colorful, I feel very confident, and only start to feel self conscious based on the looks and reactions I get from other people. I generally assume I get a lot of looks because I stand out a lot, but whenever I dress like that anywhere but Austin, the looks appear to be a lot more negative and judgmental (less like 'that's interesting' to 'what the hell is she wearing?').
May 27, 2012
Eliana G.
really enjoyed reading your social experiments! and loved all ur looks!!
May 27, 2012
karina d.
I love all your social experiments, and they have actually helped me feel braver when doing something different. I love to be original and different but I tend to (as most people, I guess) be intimidated by other people's startled/negative reactions. Now, I still have a long way to go, but I pretty much look however I feel like and don't give a damn if people stare or glare. I have been bleaching my eyebrows while they grow in, and I get a lot of surprised and confused looks from people (usually women) when they see I have no brows -- and then I crack up.
May 08, 2012
TaNyA N.
nice one!! made so much sense..
Dec 27, 2011
Christina H.
This is incredible, and I love all of these looks. The conclusion had me tearing up a bit c: