I'll just explain the short version. This girl picks on me, i confronted her about it for ignoring it for so long and then we ended up fighting. Got suspended, came back and thought everything is over with. Obviously that's not the case. She is constantly seeking attention and trying to make me seem like the weaker link. I'm trying hard not to let it get to me again but i feel like my only option now is to go for a round two. Maybe it'll teach her to stfu. Someone please just give me some type of advice or something.
I think either fake them out with kindness or don't pay attention to it! Bullies stop bullying once they see its not doing anything. I was bullied a lot when I was little, and I ignored them and they did go away
Erica: honesty i dont know why. Her and her friends do everything in their power to put me down but i just ignore it. I can only ignore it for so long though..
Just ignore them. Don't let them see that they're getting to you. They're probably jealous of you and want to weaken you. You just have to stay strong and don't let those idiots get to you.
She's probably jealous as fuck. I've dealt with the same thing girl but when it escalated to fighting she was scared, all bark no bite. Just act confident and just ignore what she says or laugh at her.
Find something to do with your time so it can't get to you, like reading or practicing an instrument, and get closer to your close friends. Make sure you're busy and positive, and when you're an open target at school then you can just laugh and ignore her. Whatever you do, keep yourself occupied and try to find yourself and be at peace with yourself, it will only make them more jealous, but you'll be officially too busy to even notice!
Her picking on you doesn't mean anything when you know it has no value to you. The less you care about what she does the more power you have. Kids are going to talk and as you get older you learn that adults do it too. It never ends. You have to be a strong person and don't let it get to you. Once you graduate you will probably never see that person again so its not worth getting suspended over. If she threatens you however make sure you get a teacher or the principal involved so you don't be in harms way.
I'm not all for violence but in more cases than not it works. I beat this girl who was constantly bugging me up pretty bad. After that she stopped and so did all her friends. We are actually perfectly fine now and she dated my little brother for a bit.
I had to go through a diversion program to avoid charges but the women running the program said that when the victim lashes out violently it usually stops. She actually wanted me to go speak with her at schools all over the province.
It's not always the answer but if you truly believe it may stop her then its worth a shot. Some people need to be taken down a peg.
This GUY picks on me any my friend because he for some reason hates us. He is a wackjob. He actually posted on facebook a list of people (including me) that he was going to shoot. His was to bring a gun to school and kill us all on 12/21/12. Clearly Im alive. I personally think he is crazy and needs to go to a flipping mental institute. Until he gets expelled what I do is just try to avoid and ignore. If he talk to me and says something mean I just tell him to please mind his own business. He scares me o.0
Ignoring them doesn't always work and I HATE when people say it does. Some of my friends I. Highschool were bullies and they just thought the people who ignored them were afraid of them or complete cowards.
I know it sounds cliche but people only bully people because they have no way to feel better about themselves, high school can be hard. Don't let her see that you care, she's looking for a reaction, just don't give her what she wants.
And Melanie that's also not always the case. Sometimes people are just dicks. My old friends thought they were the hottest coolest people around (in sure they still do) and they picked on people to seem more powerful. They sure as hell didn't seem to have ANY insecurities and they all ended up being rather successful and I'm sure they are still bitches.
Some people bully out of insecurities and some do it because they have a giant ego. People with huge egos really do believe they are awesome and generally have pretty high self esteems.
Some parents did call the police and he is on trial now. The FB posts are gone and he hasnt been in school seance so its all okay. Plus, i was only one of like 20 or 30 other people.
Hi Monica. I am a mother and son is 16. This girl who bullies you obviously is jealous of you for whatever reason. I always tell my son "don't sweat the small stuff". It's not worth it. Trust me oc you act like you don't care and it doesn't bother you, then it will bother her that your not upset by anything she does. People suck sometimes and it's never easy to just ignore bug know that your better than that. Don't let anyone bring you down. Hope that helps. Take care.
But it DOES bug her. So why pretend it doesn't? Standing up for yourself is important. "Don't sweat the small stuff", since when is bullying that is causing serious self esteem issues small stuff? You need to stop the problem not ignore it.
Running away from your problems doesn't help and neither does ignoring them.
I've been bullied and the one and only thing that worked every single time is showing the person that I will not put up with it.
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Jan 09, 2013
Monica K.
I'll just explain the short version. This girl picks on me, i confronted her about it for ignoring it for so long and then we ended up fighting. Got suspended, came back and thought everything is over with. Obviously that's not the case. She is constantly seeking attention and trying to make me seem like the weaker link. I'm trying hard not to let it get to me again but i feel like my only option now is to go for a round two. Maybe it'll teach her to stfu. Someone please just give me some type of advice or something.
Jan 09, 2013
Tyler B.
Hmmm, I'm not sure, Why does she pick on you? Usually bullies bully because their insecure and need to get someone else down.
Jan 09, 2013
Jenna S.
The next time she insults you just laugh with her of just smile. Bullys feed on how people get upset.
Jan 09, 2013
Miss F.
Smile and say thanks your (insert a flattering thing here) too!
Jan 09, 2013
Kitty M.
I always like to kill em with kindness! Negative people are just not worth your time and energy.
Jan 09, 2013
Sarah J.
I think either fake them out with kindness or don't pay attention to it! Bullies stop bullying once they see its not doing anything. I was bullied a lot when I was little, and I ignored them and they did go away
Jan 09, 2013
Monica K.
Erica: honesty i dont know why. Her and her friends do everything in their power to put me down but i just ignore it. I can only ignore it for so long though..
Jan 09, 2013
Reem A.
Just ignore them. Don't let them see that they're getting to you. They're probably jealous of you and want to weaken you. You just have to stay strong and don't let those idiots get to you.
Jan 09, 2013
Tyler B.
Well I would dl what the girls here say, just lough it off and tell them how sad they are,also ignore them, or you could pick on them for a change!!
Jan 09, 2013
Amy W.
She's probably jealous as fuck. I've dealt with the same thing girl but when it escalated to fighting she was scared, all bark no bite. Just act confident and just ignore what she says or laugh at her.
Jan 09, 2013
Angie O.
you go girl! i believe in you!
Jan 09, 2013
Kim P.
Find something to do with your time so it can't get to you, like reading or practicing an instrument, and get closer to your close friends. Make sure you're busy and positive, and when you're an open target at school then you can just laugh and ignore her. Whatever you do, keep yourself occupied and try to find yourself and be at peace with yourself, it will only make them more jealous, but you'll be officially too busy to even notice!
Jan 09, 2013
Cylena M.
Her picking on you doesn't mean anything when you know it has no value to you. The less you care about what she does the more power you have. Kids are going to talk and as you get older you learn that adults do it too. It never ends. You have to be a strong person and don't let it get to you. Once you graduate you will probably never see that person again so its not worth getting suspended over. If she threatens you however make sure you get a teacher or the principal involved so you don't be in harms way.
Jan 09, 2013
Ave M.
I'm not all for violence but in more cases than not it works. I beat this girl who was constantly bugging me up pretty bad. After that she stopped and so did all her friends. We are actually perfectly fine now and she dated my little brother for a bit.
I had to go through a diversion program to avoid charges but the women running the program said that when the victim lashes out violently it usually stops. She actually wanted me to go speak with her at schools all over the province.
It's not always the answer but if you truly believe it may stop her then its worth a shot. Some people need to be taken down a peg.
Jan 09, 2013
Noelle L.
This GUY picks on me any my friend because he for some reason hates us. He is a wackjob. He actually posted on facebook a list of people (including me) that he was going to shoot. His was to bring a gun to school and kill us all on 12/21/12. Clearly Im alive. I personally think he is crazy and needs to go to a flipping mental institute. Until he gets expelled what I do is just try to avoid and ignore. If he talk to me and says something mean I just tell him to please mind his own business. He scares me o.0
Jan 09, 2013
Ave M.
Ignoring them doesn't always work and I HATE when people say it does. Some of my friends I. Highschool were bullies and they just thought the people who ignored them were afraid of them or complete cowards.
It never stopped them from being mean to them.
Jan 09, 2013
Melanie S.
I know it sounds cliche but people only bully people because they have no way to feel better about themselves, high school can be hard. Don't let her see that you care, she's looking for a reaction, just don't give her what she wants.
Jan 09, 2013
Ave M.
Omg noelle did you call the police?! That's not something to joke about. He should have been expelled for that.
Jan 09, 2013
Ave M.
And Melanie that's also not always the case. Sometimes people are just dicks. My old friends thought they were the hottest coolest people around (in sure they still do) and they picked on people to seem more powerful. They sure as hell didn't seem to have ANY insecurities and they all ended up being rather successful and I'm sure they are still bitches.
Some people bully out of insecurities and some do it because they have a giant ego. People with huge egos really do believe they are awesome and generally have pretty high self esteems.
Jan 09, 2013
Ave M.
She may want a reaction but I bet she doesn't want to get punched in the throat.
Jan 09, 2013
Chloe N.
Just smile your perfect and no one should make you feel bad about yourself
Jan 09, 2013
Noelle L.
Some parents did call the police and he is on trial now. The FB posts are gone and he hasnt been in school seance so its all okay. Plus, i was only one of like 20 or 30 other people.
Jan 09, 2013
Linda V.
Hi Monica. I am a mother and son is 16. This girl who bullies you obviously is jealous of you for whatever reason. I always tell my son "don't sweat the small stuff". It's not worth it. Trust me oc you act like you don't care and it doesn't bother you, then it will bother her that your not upset by anything she does. People suck sometimes and it's never easy to just ignore bug know that your better than that. Don't let anyone bring you down. Hope that helps. Take care.
Jan 09, 2013
Linda V.
Noelle just watch your back and stay away from this person. Tell someone at the school.
Jan 09, 2013
Ave M.
But it DOES bug her. So why pretend it doesn't? Standing up for yourself is important. "Don't sweat the small stuff", since when is bullying that is causing serious self esteem issues small stuff? You need to stop the problem not ignore it.
Running away from your problems doesn't help and neither does ignoring them.
I've been bullied and the one and only thing that worked every single time is showing the person that I will not put up with it.