Apr 29, 2012
So first i want to say this question has nothing to do with makeup, but WAIT it has a little to do with beauty...the beauty of friendship. So i used to have this bestfriend Brook but now we dont talk. I dont know what happend. Part of me wants to hate her and never talk to her ever again. Part of me wants us to be besties again. I'm confused. I also lied to her a lot. Heres one of the last texts she sent me:
"You dont wanna be friends anymore? Kbyethen" :( I'm only 13 and i know theres a lot of adults on this website so please help me!
I would just talk to her. Both of you will eventually get over it.
Hi Payton!! I remember when i was the 13 I was ALWAYS having arguments with my girlfriends, lol. i thought it was normal! I didn't realize it was not normal until I was 24 years old! Ouch! Here's the thing: You can't force anyone to be your friend. Maybe your lies were too much for her and she's over it. Maybe she's going through her own "stuff" and can't be bothered. It might not have anything to do with you at all! You can't change the past, you can only move forward. I say, call her and see if she's willing to talk. Say you're sorry for anything you may have done to upset her. If she can't get over it, then she was never your friend and it's time to move on. As you grow you will find people who you don't have to lie to and people who make you feel okay just the way you are! Don't worry! This, too, shall pass! xoxo and let us know how it all works out!
Get ready for expert words from someone 1.5 years older than you! (lol). You should try talking to her. If she does talk to you don't argue or try to defend yourself at that point in time, just let her... vent I guess. Also apologize. You can ask specifically what you did wrong too.
If she doesn't talk to you then it just wasn't meant to be. I became enemies with someone who was my best friend since we were three years old two years ago and even though we apologized to each other, things never went back to the way they were.
The good thing is that most of the times friends, especially best friends, are willing to forgive people they're close to because they'll miss you too much :)
I was so burned by my "bestie" (she didn't even show up on my wedding day) that I wrote a post about it. She's a toxic friend. Google "toxic friend" PLEASE and you will feel BETTER. :) Trust me. You are a person that deserves to be treated with dignity and respect.
there was a UCLA STUDY done and it discussed how toxic friends are ACTUALLY BAD for your HEALTH!
@BEE I had a few besties who didn't go to my wedding last year either, and then had the NERVE to question why we are no longer friends! These women couldn't be more dead to me now than if they were 6 feet under (yes, i'm still bitter lol!) When people aren't there for you during The SINGLE most important day of your life, then these people have no business being a part of your daily life. Trust me Payton, friendships with women can be complicated even when you get older! Don't sweat this too much. Talk to her and if she's unwilling to listen or accept an apology move on. There are PLENTY of other women who you will fall in and out of friendship with for a few more years to come. Then, you'll find your soul mate and these "friendships" will become less important. Hang in there! Xoxo
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