Help needed! Not sure what to do...

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Oct 30, 2014

Kirin S.

Hi everyone,
Wasn't sure what category to out this under, so I just put it under beauty.
I'm in a situation and I don't know what to do...
My best friend at school is having issues with low self esteem. No matter what I tell her, she still thinks she's not pretty enough, and it's making her really sad and it makes me sad to see her that way.
She's so beautiful and I've told her that but she can't seem to think that herself :(
Has anyone been in a similar situation to this and if so, what do you think I should do?
I know this isn't a really a topic that will help others but I figured that since this community is all about self love, I could get some advice.

Oct 30, 2014

Sabrina T.

Let her experiment with makeup, see how much she needs to put on to make her "beautiful' in her opinion. And take her to a counselor. I know it seems cheesy but that is really sad.

Oct 30, 2014

Kirin S.

Thanks for the advice Sabrina!
However, I forgot to mention she already wears a lot of makeup but is not happy. I will consider taking her to a counselor, that idea never crossed my mind. Thanks!

Oct 30, 2014

Fatema B.

Maybe she has been told my someone significant in her life that she aint pretty? and so now its hard for her to accept even though you are trying to explain it to her that she's pretty...words can make you or break you :( I agree with sabrina..if somethings up her mind and if its distressing her then she should definitely visit a counsellor.

Oct 30, 2014

Julia M.

No matter how hard you try, she won't accept it if she doesn't believe it. Tell her to be herself, encourage her to try new things and go on new experiences. Be by her side, these things take time, but hopefully she will be shining like a diamond soon with your help.
P.S.: I wish I had a good friend like you

Oct 30, 2014

Hannah K.

Hi Kirin, I understand how hard a situation this is, and honestly I understand it from her perspective as well. In cases such as these, usually what works the best is to have someone (usually a significant other, or someone who is in no way obligated to say that she's beautiful) talk to her about it.

While I know that this situation is a complicated one, I do want to let you know that BL is not really the place to be talking about it. Beautylish is a place to discuss the entire world of beauty/fashion, but when threads like this come about, it is often a problem because things like low self esteem can spiral into depression, and (to the best of my knowledge) no one here is qualified to deal with that. I would hate for someone to give you advice that makes the situation worse, because unlike with makeup, you can't just wipe it off and start over.

Kirin S.

Brisbane, Australia.