My daughter is biracial (black father) she has pretty good hair texture, not to course...it is relaxed. We only retouch her roots once a year....seems to break off easily. Need tips to condition and maintain.
@Summer...natural,... very curly (cork screw) and frizzy, around her hairline. She likes it straight, I liked it curly...@Kimberly..Coarse hair is not bad (sorry for the typo in original post) my hair is coarse in places and its hard to deal with.
My niece is bi-racial as well....they use Hair Rules conditioning and shampoo on her hair (along with everyone else in my family since curly hair reigns supreme). The relaxer you might just be too harsh for her hair. Coarse hair needs TLC too and slamming it with relaxers will actually make it worse. With it being frizzy moisture is key so invest in some really good deep conditioners to bring her moisture level up.
Thank you Shelley..:)) all the comments are very helpful, I cant wait to try some of these products. I have tried Carols Daughter...I love that line, I use it on my curly hair...they smell great too!
My vote would be to keep her hair natural, but I'm biased. A year may be too long in between perms. I haven't had a perm in well over a decade. When reading other women's comments on natural hair care forums, people advised others that after a while, your hair will break off where the natural and permed hair meet. Something to consider... As you go a long time in between perms, I would treat her hair very delicately. Avoid a lot of heat. Stay far away from shampoos with sulfates and hair products with mineral oil. People on here and other makeup boards will say how fantastic mineral oil is on their body, lips or face, but believe me it is THE WORST on black hair (anybody's hair really). Whatever product it is in may feel good at first, but over time it will cause the hair to be dry and brittle. Mineral oil shellacs the hair preventing moisture from the air to reach it. Hair, especially curly hair, needs that moisture. Consider co-washing the hair and just shampooing the scalp as it helps to maintain moisture. I love using oils and butters on my hair. Raw East African Shea Butter is great for hair (East has a softer texture than West). I use Jojoba, castor (Jamaican castor is my favorite) and sweet almond oils on my hair. Consider rich leave-in conditioners versus rinse-out. If a rinse-out conditioner's ingredients are all natural, you can use it as a leave-in. The conditioners I use weekly, either as a co-wash or leave-in, are Jessicurl, Giovanni, Trader Joe, Aubrey's Organics and Kinky Curly. Most of the products I use are purchased online or in Whole Foods, the VitaminShoppe or Trader Joe's grocery.
I can definitely see, that I am not doing enough as far as conditioning is concerned. We wash and flat iron once a week, (use a heat guard..S factor) that's it! Her scalp is dry and flaky as well. Dermatologist says she has eczema on her scalp and give us a Rx for shampoo...we are using all the wrong products. I will take all the advice given and change our routine...most deff!!! Thanks for all the great advice :))
I suggest have her go natural.I think that's the best for her. She can keep her hair healthier that way too without all the chemicals. She can also choose to either wear her hair curly or straight. If her scalp is dry try using Coconut Oil :) works AMAZINGLY!
You can check out some youtube channels. There are so many products for her to use. I would suggest like the other ladies not to perm her hair. The chemicals are really damaging to our hair. There's shea moisture products, kinky curly, carol's daughter, etc. To keep her hair strong she would want to deep condition her hair every two weeks and not use like Nichole H stated no sulfate shampoos.
hey its about to be hot! She needs to embrace the curl!!! Trust me, i HATED my hair growing up and it seem that people cant stop touching it LOL! I usually make my own deep conditioner only because im poor and I cant afford the good stuff, unless its on sale. The salon brands of conditioner I like to use are Rusk (tahitian oil one), AG Ultra Moist, Kenra Moisturing Conditioner. Kenra also makes a GREAT deep conditioning mask. I also use protein treatments before I wash and flat iron my hair BUT I have never used chemicals other than color on my hair. If you want to make your own deep conditioner just take all natural oils such as coconut oil, avocado oil, olive oil, hempseed oil, mix it in your fav conditioner, pop it in the microwave for like 40 sec so it turns to a liquid. Let it cool so it can congeal and BOOM!! You have made your won deep conditioner.
As for the dandruff, I get dandruff really bad but I do eat alot of protein. It makes my hair grow so fast that my scap doesnt have time to compensate. To keep my hair feeling fresh, i run either lavender oil or tea tree oil thru my hair and on to my scalp.
@ Lana...Her hair's relaxed in your pics, correct? Then we wouldn't be able to tell much of anything about her natural hair texture/type. We'd need to see it in its completely untreated state.
Hi Lana! I'm a Johny-come-lately to this topic;) Anyway, I agree with a previous poster that relaxing once a year probably isn't enough. Try a gentler relaxer about 4 times a year (every three months) should help. Also when she washes and conditions, she should probably be using a wide too comb to detangle. Along with better conditioning products consider having her sleep on a satin pillow case or a satin sleep cap to keep her hair from breaking. Hope this helps! Take care:)
Thank you for the reply.....I thought that going longer between would be best....Its good to know we are ok to have her touched up more frequently than I thought.😊
i know im late, but i went through the same thing as a child, and my mom kept my hair in braid! i got a relaxer when i was 13 and wish that day never occured! I cut all off my hair 5 months ago and decided to embrace my natural thick curls. I would suggest using curl styling products and 'kill" the relaxers! i just add water and lve in conditioner plus styling products and boom, im done!! just wanted to share my piece! take care!!
Thank you for sharing....I have really felt the love on this topic :) She really enjoys the relaxed look now. I hope that when she gets a lil older she will embrace her curls, I love them! She will not even wear it curled with the flat iron....she is very stubborn... but I love her . Thank you again :))
Beautylish is a diverse and positive community that is ever-evolving. While tastes may be personal, please be respectful in your conversation and withhold judgement or criticism. We're all here to learn and grow.
Contribute Thoughtfully
We encourage you to participate in all conversations, but try to use proper spelling, grammar and capitalization. Your two cents will be taken more seriously if you take the time to present it well.
Stay Relevant and Avoid Self-Promotion
When replying, feel free to link to a blog or video that contains an answer to that thread. Please don't ask people to check your site or act in a self-promotional way out of context. You don’t need to end posts with your blog, YouTube, Facebook, or Twitter—they are displayed in your signature card.
Please don't post contests, giveaways, swaps or exchanges on Beautylish.
Be Yourself
The most rewarding conversations are genuine and authentic with real people. Please don’t use forums to post commercial messages for direct selling purposes or on behalf of a company or commercial enterprise.
Let Us Know
Beautylish doesn’t allow hateful or disrespectful comments. If you see something that seems inappropriate or wrong, please send us a note at help@beautylish.com.
Follow Us
Get the Beautylish Newsletter to hear about exclusive events, new products,
expert tips and more!
May 08, 2012
Lana Y.
My daughter is biracial (black father) she has pretty good hair texture, not to course...it is relaxed. We only retouch her roots once a year....seems to break off easily. Need tips to condition and maintain.
May 08, 2012
Nabila V.
Try Dominican Hair Products they work wonders.
May 08, 2012
Lana Y.
Will check it out...Where to buy? ((thank u))
May 08, 2012
Summer S.
how old is your lil gurl? You really shouldnt be putting chemicals on her hair AT ALL until about 16. Do you have a pic?
May 08, 2012
Summer S.
ok I just realized that is your daughter LMAO!!! HAHAHAHA what does her hair look like naturally?
May 08, 2012
Kimberly M.
"she has pretty good hair texture, not to course..." So coarse hair is bad?
May 09, 2012
Lana Y.
@Summer...natural,... very curly (cork screw) and frizzy, around her hairline. She likes it straight, I liked it curly...@Kimberly..Coarse hair is not bad (sorry for the typo in original post) my hair is coarse in places and its hard to deal with.
May 09, 2012
Shelley W.
My niece is bi-racial as well....they use Hair Rules conditioning and shampoo on her hair (along with everyone else in my family since curly hair reigns supreme). The relaxer you might just be too harsh for her hair. Coarse hair needs TLC too and slamming it with relaxers will actually make it worse. With it being frizzy moisture is key so invest in some really good deep conditioners to bring her moisture level up.
May 09, 2012
Lana Y.
Thank you Shelley..:)) all the comments are very helpful, I cant wait to try some of these products. I have tried Carols Daughter...I love that line, I use it on my curly hair...they smell great too!
May 09, 2012
Nichole H.
My vote would be to keep her hair natural, but I'm biased. A year may be too long in between perms. I haven't had a perm in well over a decade. When reading other women's comments on natural hair care forums, people advised others that after a while, your hair will break off where the natural and permed hair meet. Something to consider... As you go a long time in between perms, I would treat her hair very delicately. Avoid a lot of heat. Stay far away from shampoos with sulfates and hair products with mineral oil. People on here and other makeup boards will say how fantastic mineral oil is on their body, lips or face, but believe me it is THE WORST on black hair (anybody's hair really). Whatever product it is in may feel good at first, but over time it will cause the hair to be dry and brittle. Mineral oil shellacs the hair preventing moisture from the air to reach it. Hair, especially curly hair, needs that moisture. Consider co-washing the hair and just shampooing the scalp as it helps to maintain moisture. I love using oils and butters on my hair. Raw East African Shea Butter is great for hair (East has a softer texture than West). I use Jojoba, castor (Jamaican castor is my favorite) and sweet almond oils on my hair. Consider rich leave-in conditioners versus rinse-out. If a rinse-out conditioner's ingredients are all natural, you can use it as a leave-in. The conditioners I use weekly, either as a co-wash or leave-in, are Jessicurl, Giovanni, Trader Joe, Aubrey's Organics and Kinky Curly. Most of the products I use are purchased online or in Whole Foods, the VitaminShoppe or Trader Joe's grocery.
Hope that helps.
May 09, 2012
Lana Y.
I can definitely see, that I am not doing enough as far as conditioning is concerned. We wash and flat iron once a week, (use a heat guard..S factor) that's it! Her scalp is dry and flaky as well. Dermatologist says she has eczema on her scalp and give us a Rx for shampoo...we are using all the wrong products. I will take all the advice given and change our routine...most deff!!! Thanks for all the great advice :))
May 09, 2012
Kimberly M.
What Nicole H said. Good stuff.
May 09, 2012
Asha M.
I suggest have her go natural.I think that's the best for her. She can keep her hair healthier that way too without all the chemicals. She can also choose to either wear her hair curly or straight. If her scalp is dry try using Coconut Oil :) works AMAZINGLY!
May 09, 2012
Pamela W.
You can check out some youtube channels. There are so many products for her to use. I would suggest like the other ladies not to perm her hair. The chemicals are really damaging to our hair. There's shea moisture products, kinky curly, carol's daughter, etc. To keep her hair strong she would want to deep condition her hair every two weeks and not use like Nichole H stated no sulfate shampoos.
May 10, 2012
Lana Y.
Lovin the feedback! Thank you guys sooooo much for all the great advice :))
May 10, 2012
Summer S.
hey its about to be hot! She needs to embrace the curl!!! Trust me, i HATED my hair growing up and it seem that people cant stop touching it LOL! I usually make my own deep conditioner only because im poor and I cant afford the good stuff, unless its on sale. The salon brands of conditioner I like to use are Rusk (tahitian oil one), AG Ultra Moist, Kenra Moisturing Conditioner. Kenra also makes a GREAT deep conditioning mask. I also use protein treatments before I wash and flat iron my hair BUT I have never used chemicals other than color on my hair. If you want to make your own deep conditioner just take all natural oils such as coconut oil, avocado oil, olive oil, hempseed oil, mix it in your fav conditioner, pop it in the microwave for like 40 sec so it turns to a liquid. Let it cool so it can congeal and BOOM!! You have made your won deep conditioner.
As for the dandruff, I get dandruff really bad but I do eat alot of protein. It makes my hair grow so fast that my scap doesnt have time to compensate. To keep my hair feeling fresh, i run either lavender oil or tea tree oil thru my hair and on to my scalp.
Hope it helps!!
May 10, 2012
Lana Y.
WOW!! you are full of good information :) I am taken it ALL in! I cant wait to see the results. One happy momma here :)))))
May 10, 2012
Lana Y.
Posted a few pictures on my profile of my daughter...you can tell more about her hair type. :)
May 10, 2012
Kimberly M.
@ Lana...Her hair's relaxed in your pics, correct? Then we wouldn't be able to tell much of anything about her natural hair texture/type. We'd need to see it in its completely untreated state.
May 10, 2012
Lana Y.
Yes is relaxed in pics....she will not let me take a pic of her natural :(
May 10, 2012
Nabila V.
Amazon
May 11, 2012
Aisha D.
Hi Lana! I'm a Johny-come-lately to this topic;) Anyway, I agree with a previous poster that relaxing once a year probably isn't enough. Try a gentler relaxer about 4 times a year (every three months) should help. Also when she washes and conditions, she should probably be using a wide too comb to detangle. Along with better conditioning products consider having her sleep on a satin pillow case or a satin sleep cap to keep her hair from breaking. Hope this helps! Take care:)
May 11, 2012
Lana Y.
Thank you for the reply.....I thought that going longer between would be best....Its good to know we are ok to have her touched up more frequently than I thought.😊
May 11, 2012
Rymingtahn R.
i know im late, but i went through the same thing as a child, and my mom kept my hair in braid! i got a relaxer when i was 13 and wish that day never occured! I cut all off my hair 5 months ago and decided to embrace my natural thick curls. I would suggest using curl styling products and 'kill" the relaxers! i just add water and lve in conditioner plus styling products and boom, im done!! just wanted to share my piece! take care!!
May 12, 2012
Lana Y.
Thank you for sharing....I have really felt the love on this topic :) She really enjoys the relaxed look now. I hope that when she gets a lil older she will embrace her curls, I love them! She will not even wear it curled with the flat iron....she is very stubborn... but I love her . Thank you again :))