I've never gotten any direct negativity (probably because people are rightfully fearful of redheads, lol) but I have gotten a few veiled comments about how I wear a "full face every day" which I gather is supposed to mean that THEY are brave enough to go out with nothing but lipgloss. To these I just smile and proudly say, "Yes, I believe it's important to make a good first impression wherever I go" or "I'm worth the extra time and effort EVERY morning, not just on special occasions." This usually turns their snark right back around on them. I've also been told that I "don't need makeup" and to them I just say "thank you," and change the subject before they can really get rolling.
People have talked down to me, like them wearing no makeup makes them better than me wearing makeup. People think that those who wear a full face of makeup or dramatic eyes mean that we are insecure or trying to impress everybody. Nope! I'm secure and the only person I want to impress is myself! Makeup makes us feel beautiful and that's all that matters. Don't let people get you down.
Makeup is more than just making someone "look beautiful", it's a way of self expression. It's a kind of art where one can express their creativity on self canvas. I can look devilish with red lips and smokey eyes or I can look sweet and fresh with barely there makeup. Most of us do not wear makeup to satisfy the wants of others but for ourselves.
I tend to explain this to those who criticize and never hear a peep from them again lol
I agree with those who say that ignoring them works best, because people are mean about stuff when they feel threatened or insecure. If you let them see you get upset then they win, so don't let them get to you- it's YOUR face! Have fun with it!
I haven't really gotten much criticism, more like my siblings teasing me and poking fun at times, but my friends know it's a hobby of mine and even some of my customers have admitted to enjoying my looks at work sometimes. I try to keep my looks natural for work, but I do love to throw in a bright lip or liner for fun every so often too.
Just remember- "He who angers you, conquers you" - and honey, they're not worth it. I refuse to be conquered by pettiness and cruelty.
Gahhh this happens to me. It is usually people complaining about how it makes me look older ( I don't see how this affects them though????) and occasionally because it's too creative. But what I have realized is that the girls that I am around have no creativity, they are too busy being skanky or slutty, they just stick to lining the bottom waterline with black eyeliner and filling their eyebrows in with it as well (yep, I know really bad) So I just say to myself, they are really missing out, it feels awesome thinking out of the box!!! :D
lol.. so true, but sometime it gets to the point wear its hard to ignore mean things..im really nice, and try to smile it out, an do me. and that just makes them madder. I honestly dont understand why people always have to bully me...
I'm going to go out on a limb and assume we're talking about teenagers here. The problem is that they're teenagers, and that's just one of the unfortunate side-effects of a time in a person's life when she has too many hormones and too little control over her life and her environment. Different people deal with it different ways, and some of them deal with it by turning catty and mean. The good news is that most of them will grow up in college; they'll look back on this time and wonder how anyone ever put up with them. For now, just remind yourself that they're either lashing out at the unfamiliar or dealing with feelings of jealousy and inadequacy. After all, how many of them have the skill or daring to wear what you wear? More to the point, how many of them would be allowed the freedom to do it? I'll bet their parents pitch a fit if they leave the house in anything more than boring beige and they resent the fact that you are trusted with color and pizazz.
I'm actually pretty rude when people come at me about my makeup. Especially when its in public, like a cashier or just a stranger. Sorry but if they are rude enough to question me I am not going to take the nice route :P Of course I'm not over the top rude but....My makeup is something that is very important to me and I don't appreciate people attacking it:D
I remember one day my junior year I was wearing a lovely purple eyeshadow...It wasn't over the top just a very nice look. This girl sitting behind me on the bus said, That girl wears too much makeup.
Really? From that day I always remember her talking badly about me and I just would hear that she doesn't like me...I never talked to her in my LIFE and she doesn't like me? Pfft. It was nothing to me then, and guess what I don't even remember her name. I wish I would have said something to her now that I'm out of highschool because kids are MEAN and they do bully people, especially those that never stand up for themselves. They keep coming back because they know they can... On the other hand I have had so many people tell me how beautiful my eyes looked or how much they wish they could do makeup like me. Don't forget about the people that love your makeup!:)
Wear your makeup, be memorable, don't let people talk down on you:)
Just keep smiling, and either change the subject or just stick your tongue out them. That's what I do and I'm 30 yrs old (but if anyone asks I'm only 18)
I seldom get any negative comments (just some odd looks every now and then) but I just ignore it when it happens. I am not going to stoop to their level or give them the satisfaction and usually, it really doesn't bother me if people do not like it. However, I will glare back every now and then. I enjoy makeup and that is what matters. Most of the time I get compliments on my technique or the fact that I am not afraid to wear different colors. Odd thing is that the weird looks I do get, are from women that do wear makeup, but look like trolls and have no idea what they are doing. A lot of it stems from jealousy or insecurity, just like most negativity. As long as you like it and feel comfortable, that is what matters =) I also think that alot of negativity comes from the crazy notion that people that do wear makeup have zero confidence. Now if someone says that to me, I will go off on them and possibly throw something at them because I think it takes more confidence to wear bold lipstick and eyes than it does to go out with no makeup. Sorry, I will get off my soap box now..lol. But just do you and do what you love regardless of what those crazy and rude people say.
I've always done things that have set me apart from the way people normally behave-- from makeup to clothes to hair, etc. It's always about self-expression for me, not going after what is traditionally "beautiful". In the process of expressing myself, I think it's very beautiful. That view isn't always shared but it doesn't bother me.
I can appreciate how much it hurts if someone says something nasty, even a small thing. Those words sometimes seem so much louder than anything else. But know that there are people who love you and appreciate you, makeup and all! They may be your family, or your friends, or your online friends. Certainly here there is no shortage of people who support you and your love of makeup!
I'm sitting in the Beautylish office right now wearing a blue lip and a purple brow and it makes me so happy. Makeup is all about creating art on your face!
No one has ever said anything to my face about it ( my makeup has looked good person its the photos I get criticism over lol) but I have become much better at applying and matching makeup to my face, eyes, and coloring. The only person who really criticizes me is my mom and I think its her way of warning me that if she thinks its weird or off that other people may think so as well and its always best to hear it from her first.
I, however, do appreciate criticism because without it you cannot grow or make yourself better if people are always complimenting you and not challenging you to think out of the box. Although I feel that criticism is something that you need to grow there is a difference between constructive criticism and being plain rude! Again, I have never heard rude comments to my face about my makeup but I am sure there are days that people thought about it because I know some of my early makeup mistakes were funny lol.
YOU loving YOUR makeup should always be priority but I don't mind constructive criticism to better my makeup skills.
I havent really been criticized for the makeup i wear but if i was to be I wouldn't let it get me down. Makeup is something that I love and can have fun with and i personally do not care what people say about me and my makeup looks. They have their opinions I have mine.
I always get people telling me that I'm prettier with out makeup or that I don't need it but I always say ty , I know I dont need it. I but I love it! Makeup as is simple is putting on an accessory to go with an outfit. Its just fun! Makeup is art. People do different things to make themselves happy if makeup makes you happy rock with it girl! Who cares what they say!
If it's constructive, take it with grace and learn from it.. whether you choose to integrate it or not.
If it's not constructive there are a few options. Give in and change. Dismiss it and stay true. In between those two options you can also insert tears, laughter, sarcasm or side eye at your preference. ;]
The easy answer is to say "who cares" but unfortunately, we do. In my opinion, part of the reason we put makeup on everyday is to showcase a form of art to others, to sort of create another character. The best answer is confidence. You just have to be really confident when you wear a look that is a bit edgy or "abnormal" to another perspective. Wear what you want and be as creative as you please, as long as you can wear it with pride! :)
Just ignore them. It's your face and you can put on whatever makeup you want! I used to have this close girlfriend who bashes on my makeup and nails all the time! I don't wear a full face of makeup and she picks on me for wearing eyeshadow for a casual dinner and tells people I'm a precious lil princess when I paint my nails. Her comments got harsher and harsher with time and I finally told her to shut up and get lost in front of a crowd.
I'm proud of how well my makeup and nail art skills has improved since then!
All in all, be confident with your 'war paint'. Makeup isn't permanent and you can remove them anytime! No biggie!
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May 10, 2012
Wilniesha H.
How to handle critism for wearing your makeup?
May 10, 2012
Rikki P.
I tell people to shut up and deal with their boring life while I deal with my bold and colourful (well as far as makeup life goes) life.
May 10, 2012
Angela C.
I've never gotten any direct negativity (probably because people are rightfully fearful of redheads, lol) but I have gotten a few veiled comments about how I wear a "full face every day" which I gather is supposed to mean that THEY are brave enough to go out with nothing but lipgloss. To these I just smile and proudly say, "Yes, I believe it's important to make a good first impression wherever I go" or "I'm worth the extra time and effort EVERY morning, not just on special occasions." This usually turns their snark right back around on them. I've also been told that I "don't need makeup" and to them I just say "thank you," and change the subject before they can really get rolling.
May 10, 2012
karissa b.
People have talked down to me, like them wearing no makeup makes them better than me wearing makeup. People think that those who wear a full face of makeup or dramatic eyes mean that we are insecure or trying to impress everybody. Nope! I'm secure and the only person I want to impress is myself! Makeup makes us feel beautiful and that's all that matters. Don't let people get you down.
May 10, 2012
Rikki P.
Hahahaha, every time somebody tells me I don't need makeup I go, "Of course not. I don't remember ever saying it was a necessity."
May 10, 2012
meghan p.
honestly just ignore them as hard as it may be if you like it that is all that matters do things to impress yourself not others
May 10, 2012
Sheila R.
Makeup is more than just making someone "look beautiful", it's a way of self expression. It's a kind of art where one can express their creativity on self canvas. I can look devilish with red lips and smokey eyes or I can look sweet and fresh with barely there makeup. Most of us do not wear makeup to satisfy the wants of others but for ourselves.
I tend to explain this to those who criticize and never hear a peep from them again lol
May 10, 2012
Lorena C.
I agree with those who say that ignoring them works best, because people are mean about stuff when they feel threatened or insecure. If you let them see you get upset then they win, so don't let them get to you- it's YOUR face! Have fun with it!
I haven't really gotten much criticism, more like my siblings teasing me and poking fun at times, but my friends know it's a hobby of mine and even some of my customers have admitted to enjoying my looks at work sometimes. I try to keep my looks natural for work, but I do love to throw in a bright lip or liner for fun every so often too.
Just remember- "He who angers you, conquers you" - and honey, they're not worth it. I refuse to be conquered by pettiness and cruelty.
May 10, 2012
Olivia G.
Gahhh this happens to me. It is usually people complaining about how it makes me look older ( I don't see how this affects them though????) and occasionally because it's too creative. But what I have realized is that the girls that I am around have no creativity, they are too busy being skanky or slutty, they just stick to lining the bottom waterline with black eyeliner and filling their eyebrows in with it as well (yep, I know really bad) So I just say to myself, they are really missing out, it feels awesome thinking out of the box!!! :D
May 10, 2012
Olivia G.
Lol Rikki, that's how I feel. I should just start saying " cool story bro, changed my life."
May 10, 2012
Wilniesha H.
lol.. so true, but sometime it gets to the point wear its hard to ignore mean things..im really nice, and try to smile it out, an do me. and that just makes them madder. I honestly dont understand why people always have to bully me...
May 10, 2012
Angela C.
I'm going to go out on a limb and assume we're talking about teenagers here. The problem is that they're teenagers, and that's just one of the unfortunate side-effects of a time in a person's life when she has too many hormones and too little control over her life and her environment. Different people deal with it different ways, and some of them deal with it by turning catty and mean. The good news is that most of them will grow up in college; they'll look back on this time and wonder how anyone ever put up with them. For now, just remind yourself that they're either lashing out at the unfamiliar or dealing with feelings of jealousy and inadequacy. After all, how many of them have the skill or daring to wear what you wear? More to the point, how many of them would be allowed the freedom to do it? I'll bet their parents pitch a fit if they leave the house in anything more than boring beige and they resent the fact that you are trusted with color and pizazz.
May 10, 2012
Rikki P.
I don't talk to teenagers.
I only talk to people my age and older, haha.
May 10, 2012
Victoria P.
Tell those people it is wearable art
May 11, 2012
Christy D.
Tell them to look the other way or zip their lip. Of course I say it a lot less nice sometimes lol
May 11, 2012
Terra M.
I'm actually pretty rude when people come at me about my makeup. Especially when its in public, like a cashier or just a stranger. Sorry but if they are rude enough to question me I am not going to take the nice route :P Of course I'm not over the top rude but....My makeup is something that is very important to me and I don't appreciate people attacking it:D
I remember one day my junior year I was wearing a lovely purple eyeshadow...It wasn't over the top just a very nice look. This girl sitting behind me on the bus said, That girl wears too much makeup.
Really? From that day I always remember her talking badly about me and I just would hear that she doesn't like me...I never talked to her in my LIFE and she doesn't like me? Pfft. It was nothing to me then, and guess what I don't even remember her name. I wish I would have said something to her now that I'm out of highschool because kids are MEAN and they do bully people, especially those that never stand up for themselves. They keep coming back because they know they can... On the other hand I have had so many people tell me how beautiful my eyes looked or how much they wish they could do makeup like me. Don't forget about the people that love your makeup!:)
Wear your makeup, be memorable, don't let people talk down on you:)
May 11, 2012
Crystal S.
Just keep smiling, and either change the subject or just stick your tongue out them. That's what I do and I'm 30 yrs old (but if anyone asks I'm only 18)
May 11, 2012
Kristen W.
I seldom get any negative comments (just some odd looks every now and then) but I just ignore it when it happens. I am not going to stoop to their level or give them the satisfaction and usually, it really doesn't bother me if people do not like it. However, I will glare back every now and then. I enjoy makeup and that is what matters. Most of the time I get compliments on my technique or the fact that I am not afraid to wear different colors. Odd thing is that the weird looks I do get, are from women that do wear makeup, but look like trolls and have no idea what they are doing. A lot of it stems from jealousy or insecurity, just like most negativity. As long as you like it and feel comfortable, that is what matters =) I also think that alot of negativity comes from the crazy notion that people that do wear makeup have zero confidence. Now if someone says that to me, I will go off on them and possibly throw something at them because I think it takes more confidence to wear bold lipstick and eyes than it does to go out with no makeup. Sorry, I will get off my soap box now..lol. But just do you and do what you love regardless of what those crazy and rude people say.
May 12, 2012
Bec S.
I can appreciate how much it hurts if someone says something nasty, even a small thing. Those words sometimes seem so much louder than anything else. But know that there are people who love you and appreciate you, makeup and all! They may be your family, or your friends, or your online friends. Certainly here there is no shortage of people who support you and your love of makeup!
I'm sitting in the Beautylish office right now wearing a blue lip and a purple brow and it makes me so happy. Makeup is all about creating art on your face!
May 12, 2012
LeeAnn B.
No one has ever said anything to my face about it ( my makeup has looked good person its the photos I get criticism over lol) but I have become much better at applying and matching makeup to my face, eyes, and coloring. The only person who really criticizes me is my mom and I think its her way of warning me that if she thinks its weird or off that other people may think so as well and its always best to hear it from her first.
I, however, do appreciate criticism because without it you cannot grow or make yourself better if people are always complimenting you and not challenging you to think out of the box. Although I feel that criticism is something that you need to grow there is a difference between constructive criticism and being plain rude! Again, I have never heard rude comments to my face about my makeup but I am sure there are days that people thought about it because I know some of my early makeup mistakes were funny lol.
YOU loving YOUR makeup should always be priority but I don't mind constructive criticism to better my makeup skills.
May 13, 2012
Haley E.
I havent really been criticized for the makeup i wear but if i was to be I wouldn't let it get me down. Makeup is something that I love and can have fun with and i personally do not care what people say about me and my makeup looks. They have their opinions I have mine.
May 13, 2012
Kiesha B.
I always get people telling me that I'm prettier with out makeup or that I don't need it but I always say ty , I know I dont need it. I but I love it! Makeup as is simple is putting on an accessory to go with an outfit. Its just fun! Makeup is art. People do different things to make themselves happy if makeup makes you happy rock with it girl! Who cares what they say!
May 13, 2012
Tamara R.
Depends entirely on the type of criticism.
If it's constructive, take it with grace and learn from it.. whether you choose to integrate it or not.
If it's not constructive there are a few options. Give in and change. Dismiss it and stay true. In between those two options you can also insert tears, laughter, sarcasm or side eye at your preference. ;]
May 14, 2012
Alyssa R.
The easy answer is to say "who cares" but unfortunately, we do. In my opinion, part of the reason we put makeup on everyday is to showcase a form of art to others, to sort of create another character. The best answer is confidence. You just have to be really confident when you wear a look that is a bit edgy or "abnormal" to another perspective. Wear what you want and be as creative as you please, as long as you can wear it with pride! :)
May 14, 2012
MMay Y.
Just ignore them. It's your face and you can put on whatever makeup you want! I used to have this close girlfriend who bashes on my makeup and nails all the time! I don't wear a full face of makeup and she picks on me for wearing eyeshadow for a casual dinner and tells people I'm a precious lil princess when I paint my nails. Her comments got harsher and harsher with time and I finally told her to shut up and get lost in front of a crowd.
I'm proud of how well my makeup and nail art skills has improved since then!
All in all, be confident with your 'war paint'. Makeup isn't permanent and you can remove them anytime! No biggie!